What could be the reasons why people get married in spite of the spurt of divorces we see in today’s modern world?
There are times you feel that you could do away with many emotional problems if the institution of marriage didn’t exist at all, don’t you?
But, inspite of all your reservations about marriage, you never cease to marry the person you love.
Why?
It is because marriage is the only bond which gives you emotional security, a sense of belonging and a feeling of togetherness.
Yes!
Marriage bond gives you the crutch to lean on when you are thrown off balance by the procession of problems you face in your life. Your relationship with your spouse is your lifeline when you are in desperate need for unconditional psychological support.
Do you know people get married because it brings in many positive changes in their life?
- You have someone to look take care of you.
- You have the moral support of your spouse to face the inevitable ups and downs of your life.
- You become committed and responsible as you feel it is your duty to look after your family.
- You now enjoy a sense of togetherness which only a family can give you.
Are you still wondering about the reasons why people get married?
When you are a child, your parents are your pillar of strength. Parental love does make you feel emotionally secure.
But when you enter adulthood, you outgrow the need to cling to your parents. Your love for your parents remains the same. But you want something else. Your mind seeks a relationship which will give you something more. You crave for a sense of belonging.
Yet another biological change becomes predominant as you become an adult. You are attracted to the opposite sex.
A very natural feeling isn’t it?
Initially it is just sexual attraction between both. But, it intensifies into love as you get to know each other better.
Your intense love for each other gives you the craving to stay together always. You yearn to legalize your bond by marrying the person you ardently love.
You cannot live in this mercenary world without a loving companionship. You definitely want someone to care for you.
This yet another topmost reasons why people get married.
Here is the marriage chain.
After marriage, your relationship further tightens when you have children of your own.
When you have a family of your own, there are many lifestyle changes in you.
Your love for your children makes you become more responsible and committed.
You work for the financial security of your children and they become your world.
You forgo your carefree life and become responsible. You combine with your spouse to make your future life stable and secure. Since your children are from you, you feel they belong to you. So, you are protective towards them. You live for them. You make many sacrifices for their betterment.
You also enjoy a good companionship with your spouse. You adore the sense of belonging your marriage gives you.
These are all necessary changes you have to undergo if you want to evolve as a good human being. Without the institution of marriage, your life would meander about aimlessly.
Your children cling to you for emotional support when they are kids.
When they enter adulthood, they want to have a life of their own. They move away from you, just as you did. They marry and have children, just as you did.
This bonding will go on and on until this world exists.
In spite of the spurt of divorces, people marry and will continue to marry until this world exists. The world will not evolve if man and woman stay alone.
Imagine a world of spinsters and bachelors!
There will be no families and no relationships. When there are no relationships, there is no love. When there is no love, there is nothing in this world worth living for.
This family circle is necessary for this world to exist.
- Marriage gives acknowledgment and legality to your relationship.
- It legalizes your bond.
- It makes you committed and accountable.
Look back at your life before marriage.
- You had no responsibilities.
- You lived for yourself.
- Your life was aimless and listless.
Can you continue living such life of irresponsibility?
You cannot.
CONCLUSION
Reasons why people get married is varied and different. But, there is one common reason.
Marriage gives you the right target and direction for success in life. You become accountable. You face life with an aim to make your family happy. Minor misunderstandings might crop up between you, but it in no way takes away the credit of the institute of marriage.
‘All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest- never vicious and cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership’. – Ann Landers
Sincere and loving contribution from both is necessary to make your marriage work. The sanctity of marriage can never become outdated.
- You need a caring shoulder to lean on in times of your distress.
- You need the warm glow of love in your life.
- You need someone to hold you when you face failures in your life.
- You need supportive hands to pull you out of your rut of distress.
“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make – not just on your wedding day, but over and over again – and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.”_ Barbara De Angelis
How will all the emotional cravings of yours be fulfilled?
It is your marriage which brings in a person who lives for you. He\she to makes your life meaningful and worthy.
A person who shares your life is your spouse. He\she holds your hands in intense love throughout your life journey.
Can you now see the valid reasons why people get married?
However modern the world might turn, this emotional craving for a family will never be outgrown in any part of the world.
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