Do you know your wife emotionally pulls away from you, only because of your insensitive attitude towards her?
Your wife can love you like no else can do. But, she can also withdraw away from you as no else can do.
Yes.
Your wife is that sensitive towards you. But man like, you never know it. You do many things that hurt your wife, emotionally, sentimentally and psychologically.
You become the world of your wife after marriage. She loves you with an intensity you cannot imagine. But, mostly your wife is disappointed when you do not return her love, as she wants you to. You make her feel utterly disenchanted when you do not understand her emotional needs.
“I am fed up with my husband. He behaves as though I am the only accountable for any family issues that arise,”Lalitha, a young girl I knew complained.
“He never appreciates anything I do. But he is first to criticize me for any mistakes I unknowingly make” she further elaborated.
” My husband also never spends time with me. All he is interested in is his mobile phones and video games. Nowadays I am losing my patience with him”tears of self-pity welled in Lalitha’s eyes.
Lalitha is one among the many women who feel that they are used and taken for granted in their married life.
It is true that you never understand the emotional needs of your wife.
Do you know you are too practical for her liking?
You make the world of your wife crumble when you coolly overlook her in many ways.
Your wife emotionally pulls away from you, as you never think of changing your attitude towards her. When you persist in making the life of your wife torturous, she slowly but surely hardens her approach towards you as she has had enough.
Are you wondering why your wife emotionally pulls away from you?
You would be surprised if you know.
Here are her valid reasons.
1. You are too questioning
You forget that your wife is a highly intelligent woman with a mind of her own. She knows what she wants. And she likes to do things her way without your interference.
But, you are keen on questioning her. You act as though she knows nothing. And your questions are almost always too interfering into her personal zone. A thing she hates in you.
” Why did you spend so much money on this dress? It is not worth the cost.”
“Why didn’t you tell me before doing it? I could have made better suggestions.”
Can you see how much you use the word why?
And your wife hates the word why, because it questions her intelligence.
You make her feel tongue-tied when you bombard her with questions. Initially she fears you. Gradually she resents you. Finally, your wife emotionally pulls away from you as your questions makes her resent you.
2. You never listen
Your wife wants to talk to you about everything. You are the first person she thinks of when she is emotionally upset. She wants to share her innermost feelings with you. But you are not interested in what your wife has to say.
You have many reasons to defend your habit of not listening to your wife.
You feel your wife is too gossipy. You feel she talks nonsense. You feel she is too cribbing. You feel she talks in detail about everything.
Not once do you feel that your wife is sharing her emotions with you. When you do not listen to her, she is terribly upset. She now resists talking to you, as she knows you would not listen.
Finally she stops confiding her feelings with you.
When you do not listen, your wife emotionally pulls away from you.
3. You want her to make all the sacrifices
You always concentrate on your comfort level. You want things done your way. After returning from office, you feel you are very tired. You want your wife to attend to you.
But never once do you feel that your wife is also tired.
Is it cooking?
Your wife has to do it.
Is it looking after the children?
Your wife has to do it.
Is it managing your family issues?
Your wife has to do it.
You make your wife the most responsible person in the family. Not to give her the credit as the pillar of the family, but to make her a scapegoat to your irresponsibility and laziness.
When there is no mutual sharing of family responsibilities, you make your wife feel she is being used by you.
4. You are very commenting
You comment on whatever your wife does.
You make fun of her dressing.
You make derisive comments about her physique.
You sneer at her way of doing things.
Yes.
Not once do you appreciate her. Your wife emotionally pulls away from you when you do not appreciate her.
5. You make her seem like a dimwit
You never make your wife feel that you cannot do without her.
But, you are more than ready to make your wife unhappy by being very criticizing. Whenever she gives you suggestions, you make rude comments about her ability. You make her seem like a fool.
Your wife is naturally furious.
6. You want to be the boss
You still haven’t got over the old male dominant attitude of feeling you are superior to her.
So, you want to show her that you are the boss of the family.
You want the money your wife earns, but you do not want to treat her in par with you.
You command your wife. You demand her attention. You pretend as though you have no family responsibilities.
Naturally your wife feels resentful towards you.
CONCLUSION
“An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband.” – Booth Tarkington
Understand that your wife is very sensitive and emotional. When you repeatedly hurt her feelings, she hardens her approach towards you. When she cannot bear it any longer, your wife emotionally pulls away from you. It is as simple as that.
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