Your worst disappointment in your marriage is when your wife nags you, isn’t it?
“My wife’s nagging is like living near the airport. After a while you don’t notice it any more.”_ Tom Arnold
Your male ego is bruised and shattered, when your wife consistently keeps preaching you about your responsibilities and commitments towards the family.
When your wife constantly nags you, you literally hate your marriage.
As a man, it is only natural that you want your wife to listen to you. You also want your wife to be pliable and flexible towards you. You want her to treat you as the head of the family.
But, nothing of your wishes happen. In fact, you are very disappointed when your wife nags you about everything you do.
The nagging of your wife, makes you feel that you are not good enough for the family. You literally want to yell at your wife to let go her nagging. You love your wife, but you hate her nagging. It is a habit you dislike in her. But she wouldn’t let it go.
How do you feel when your wife nags you?
You feel your wife is trying to control you.
You feel your wife treats you like a dimwit, when she orders you to do things.
When your wife repeats an umpteenth time what she has already told you, you feel you have had enough.
You hate to be home, when your wife time and again yells at you, that you are an irresponsible family man.
It is true that you feel edgy and irritated when your wife constantly nags you.
But have you ever wondered about the reasons why your wife nags you?
You do not.
Would it surprise you if I say that you could be the reason behind her nagging?
Yes.
You are often the reason why your wife nags you.
Check it out yourself!
1. Your wife nags you when you never listen
Your wife wants to talk to you about everything. Her feelings, her fears, her happiness, her tension, her doubts and her ardent love for you, are some of the feelings your wife likes to share with you.
Your wife craves for your listening, as she can think of on one else to share her innermost feelings with.
Can you see, that you are the first person your wife wants to share her feelings and apprehensions?
But sadly, you do not have the patience to listen to your wife.
So, you scarcely listen to your wife. When your wife eagerly comes to talk to you, you curtly tell her that you have work to do. Often, you only half listen to her, with your attention focused on the television\laptop. You look everywhere, except at your wife.
When you do not listen to your wife, she feels neglected and uncared by you.
So, your wife repeatedly talks about your insensitivity and unloving nature. That deep is the hurt of your wife.
The repetitive accusation of your wife, makes you feel that she is needlessly thrashing about your insensitive nature.
You call the constant complaints your wife has about you as nagging, but she feels she is only talking about what you do to her.
2. Your wife nags you when she is not appreciated
Just like you, your wife likes appreciation. She wants you to appreciate her contribution towards the family.
Your wife wants you to appreciate her looks. She wants you to show her that you value and cherish her.
But you never appreciate your wife.
Rather, you make degrading comments about your wife before your friends\relatives.
You crack jokes about your wife. You feel you are being funny. But your wife feels, you are being nasty.
In her frustration of being unappreciated by you, your wife nags about how much she toils for the family. She keeps repeating it until her anger subsides.
3. Your wife nags you when you do not notice her
You scarcely notice your wife. When she dresses well, you do not notice her beauty.
It is not as if you do not know how to appreciate beauty. In fact, your face immediately lightens up when you see another female looking beautiful.
Your wife hates it when you ogle at other women, completely ignoring her.
The pent up anger of your wife spills forth as nagging words. You feel your wife is being a shrew when she nags.
But your wife feels you are making her nag, by behaving like a Casanova.
4. Your wife nags you when you are irresponsible
You feel it the duty of your wife to look after your family. So, you sit glued to the television to watch your favorite shows. You never even think that it is your duty to help your wife.
You let the poor girl slog all alone.
You do not understand that your wife is also physically fatigued, just like you.
You never realize that your wife is also mentally tired, as she too has work related problems.
When you callously feel that only your wife should handle all family issues by herself, she feels she has had enough.
All the pent-up frustrations of your wife bursts out as nagging, until you shrink in shame.
5. Your wife nags you when you do not spend time with her
Your wife craves for your proximity. But you invariably make her feel lonely, by ignoring her presence. When you are home, your attention is with the TV\laptop\video games.
Your wife longs for your display of love, but you scarcely make her feel loved.
Your wife wants you to spend quality time with her, but you never give her the pleasure.
The loneliness you thrust on your wife, bursts out as nagging.
CONCLUSION
“It requires the feminine temperament to repeat the same thing three times with unabated zest.” – Somerset Maugham
Can you see how you are the reason behind the nagging of your wife?
Your nagging wife is the byproduct of your negligent and uncaring attitude.
Make your wife feel loved, if you want to get away from the heat of her nagging.
Otherwise, you will constantly be scalded by her heated and nagging words.
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