Do you often break your head about the non-communicative behavior of your silent husband?
You find the behavior of your husband confusing, as he does not express his emotions in words, frankly and openly. You are also baffled when your husband often resorts to silence when he is angry or irritated.
You feel it would be better if your husband is more frank and open in his interaction with you, don’t you?
Do you know the silence of your husband is his most lethal weapon?
Yes!
Your silent husband conveys many hidden messages through his silence.
Shall we see how your husband has his mouth clamped and shut when you interact with him?
- When you talk about important family matters, your husband never replies.
- He maintains an uncomfortable silence.
- Your husband’s reaction to your anger is often wooden and deadpan. No words, just an eerie silence.
- He never shows his resentment against you openly.
- Your husband never gives any explanations to his silent behavior.
“Why can’t he openly say what he feels about me?” you fret and fume about your silent husband.
What exactly does the silence of your husband imply?
Do you think your husband approves of whatever you do, when he keeps mum?
No.
The silence of your husband speaks million hidden messages.
Often his silence shows his anger, resentment, frustration and helplessness against you.
Yes!
Your silent husband has the knack of showing his disagreement differently – the silent way.
1. His silence shows that he does not agree with you
Your husband keeps mum when he does not agree with you.
Do you know why?
You always feel you must have more say in handling family issues.
So, you want your ideas to be implemented to the dot. When your husband tentatively recommends diversified views, you never agree to his suggestions.
Your husband shrinks witin himself in frustration and resentment. He wants to point out that he too has rights towards the family. But he dare not.
Your husband does not have the capacity to reel out the reasons why he does not like your ideas for the family.
Your husband knows he cannot match the procession of accusations you readily dig up.
So, your silent husband feels it safe to keep his mouth clamped to escape your biting tongue. He feels silence is far better than to argue with you.
Your husband well knows that you will butcher him with your self-righteous words if he openly says that he does not like your ideas.
Do you now know that the silence of your husband is his male nature of showing his dislike?
2. His silence shows that he is angry
Your silent husband displays his helpless anger by keeping quiet.
When you have a good relationship with your husband, his silence will not feel uneasy or odd. It will be more of a compatible silence.
So, you never feel qualms when your husband is silent and quiet. You perfectly understand that he is busy with his work.
But when your husband is angry, his silence is very disturbing and confusing to you. His face is sullen. He keeps to himself.
There are various reasons for his anger.
He might be angry because of his work related stress. Your husband often does not share his work-related tension with you, as he feels you will not understand it.
Your husband might be angry with you when you cook him an uninteresting meal. Your husband gives that much of great importance to the needs of his stomach.
Here is yet another of his male reason for the silence of your husband.
Your husband might be angry because of the unsatisfactory sexual pleasure you give him.
Men are sexual animals, you know.
Instead of voicing his disapproval, your husband keeps his mouth clamped.
You feel your husband’s silence is more torturous than his words, don’t you?
3. He is unhappy
As a man, your husband is very egoistic. He wants to dominate you.
But sadly, your husband finds it impossible, as your efficiency makes you more than equal to him.
Your financial independence unnerves your husband. Your confidence makes him feel inferior to you. You are very decisive in dealing with family issues, while he is not.
The ego of your husband is time and again bruised when you make it obvious that you have more proficiency than him in dealing with family problems.
Your husband feels his ego shattered when you dominate him in family matters. Your silent husband is very unhappy that he is no longer the head of the family.
So, he becomes silent and closed.
Yes.
Your husband’s silence also signifies his unhappiness.
4. He is uneasy in your presence
Your husband feels uneasy when you fight with him without any proper reason. He is confused when you dig up old fights which he thought was long over.
Your husband is taken aback when you remember word by word accusations both exchanged in an argument.
Poor man.
He had completely forgotten it. But your memory for such things is awesome.
It is your womanly weapon, isn’t it?
When you nag your husband about his irresponsibility, he feels very uneasy to interact with you. When you are very criticizing, it makes your husband feel very uncomfortable at home.
Your husband fears your anger. He fears your nagging. He fears your tongue lashing. So, he keeps mum.
The silence of your husband is his way of showing his discomfort being with you.
5. Your husband is deeply hurt
As a woman, you openly display your anger or sorrow.
But your husband hides his emotions as he feels it is not manly to demonstrate it.
When your words hurt your husband deeply, he becomes aloof. When you compare him with others, he becomes totally isolated from you.
Your husband shows his intense hurt through his silence.
CONCLUSION
“In a happy marriage it is the wife who provides the climate, the husband the landscape.”- Gerald Brenan
Can you see the hidden messages behind the behavior of your silent husband?
Do not take the silence of your husband as his approval for everything you do.
Look out for the concealed feelings of your husband.
When your husband is unnaturally silent, it just means he is not at all happy with his relationship with you. Negative feelings about you is making him tongue-tied as his mind is seething with bottled up frustrations against you.
So, your husband becomes silence personified to show his anger and dissent.
You do not want your husband to withdraw into a shell with you, do you?
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