Do you know some small relationship changes can transform your marriage for the better?
Most of you are disappointed with your marriage as you feel it is not up to your expectations. You often think that your spouse is the reason behind your crushed expectations.
You are wrong.
Your spouse is not the only one to be blamed. You too cannot escape the blame. Both live through your marriage, mechanically and robotically. You never think that you should nurture your relationship to make it work.
You need just a few small relationship changes to make you enjoy your marriage as never before.
Let us see what they are!
Change No 1 – Tiny and cute physical gestures
Physical contact between both should be constant and continuous. Most of you ignore this most intricate aspect of your marriage.
Do you know your physical gestures convey your love in a more authentic manner than your words?
You might say, “I love you” to your spouse many a time. It does make him\her feel loved by you. But, when you say these magic words by hugging your spouse, the impact of your love is even more felt by him\her. It makes him\her feel treasured and cherished by you.
Pat the cheeks of your spouse affectionately. Give an unexpected tight hug. Cuddle your spouse up to you when he\she comes to sit beside you.
Simple relationship technique, isn’t it?
But this topmost of the small relationship changes, displays your love openly and emphatically to your spouse.
Change No 2 – Keep your mobile phone aside
Mobile phones restricts the communication you have with your spouse, drastically. In fact, you spend more time with your mobile phones, than with your spouse.
You keep messaging your spouse, instead of talking with him\her. This is dangerous to your relationship.
Messaging is an uninteresting and lifeless way to communicate with your spouse. Sometimes you are even bored to message that emoji’s come in handy to you.
You might not know the impact of it now. But it will have a definite snowballing effect in your relationship if you allow texting to take over talking with your spouse.
You can never afford to be lazy in building your marriage.
Change No 3 – Develop interest
What happens when you are interested in something?
You become passionate about it. You never cease to observe and notice it.
This is what you should do to your spouse. You must be interested in him\her. You should notice the good looks of your spouse. You should never stop displaying your love. You should never stop communicating.
You never know whether he\she is happy. You don’t know how his\her day was in his\her work place. You don’t bother to ask, as you are not interested.
But when you are interested, you constantly interact with your spouse. You know his\her problems perfectly.
This is the best of the small relationship changes your marriage drastically needs.
Change No 4 – Have direct eye contact
There are times you literally look through your spouse.
You hardly know what color dress he\she is wearing. You never look at your spouse when he\she is talking to you.
You are more interested in your mobile phones than with your spouse.
It is when you are angry that you look directly at your spouse. You are hell-bent to show your anger through your eyes. Otherwise, you often don’t have direct eye contact.
This is the worst relationship blunder most couples make. I am sure you too do it.
Looking directly at your spouse instantly conveys the message that your attention is totally focused on him\her. Your spouse needs it to feel valued by you.
Change No 5 – Do at least one thing your spouse likes
Before your marriage, you did many things your spouse liked.
You dressed according to his\her taste. You smiled a lot which your spouse adored about you.
You were very reasonable and empathetic.
But after marriage, there is a drastic change in your behavior. You become very selfish and egoistic.
You always do things your way, whether your spouse likes it or not.
Follow this simple habit.
Do at least one thing that makes your spouse happy. It can be wearing his\her favorite dress. It can be letting him\her have the remote. It can be giving your spouse his\her favorite cup of tea.
Anything which makes your spouse smile.
CONCLUSION
“There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.” – Martin Luther
It is these small relationship changes that brings in big positive changes in your marriage. Don’t make your married life complicated by living it mechanically. Focus on its niceties if you want to truly enjoy it.
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