Are you snooping on your spouse? Is it right or wrong?
It is indecent, crass and gross. It kills your marriage.
What is snooping?
It is spying and prying on your spouse.
Why do you snoop on your spouse?
You mistrust, distrust and suspect him\her.
Why is snooping wrong?
It is intruding, interfering and meddling with the private life of your spouse.
What are the repercussions of your snooping?
It destroys and wrecks your marriage.
Rather a long question and answer session, isn’t it?
Are you snooping on your spouse? Kills your marriage!
You don’t snoop on your spouse when you trust him\her.
Trust and faith in your spouse is very important for your marriage to survive.
Suspicion in married life is very dangerous as it can totally destroy your relationship.
‘Putting your love, and understanding to each other little by little, day by day is the perfect recipe for a stronger relationship.’ – Jayjay Guillermo.
Trust in your spouse is an absolute must to make your marriage a great success. You do not have a moment of peace when you have all sorts of doubts about your spouse.
What makes you snoop on your spouse?
When there is no transparency in your relationship you are very unsure of your spouse. Your mind is chaotic and muddled with suspicion and distrust about his\her day to day activities.
What do you snoop about your spouse?
- You spy your spouse when you doubt his\her loyalty towards you.
- You have a sneak look at his\her bank account- you want to know whether your spouse is hoarding money.
- You doubtfully enquire your relatives whether he\she is helping his\her parents.
- Your distrust makes you check the whereabouts of your spouse.
- You doubt whether your spouse loves you at all.
- You doubt his\her relationship with his\her friends of the opposite sex.
Snooping on your spouse is a terrible marriage destroyer. There is no peace in your relationship. You always fight and argue with your spouse.
Much better than snooping on him\her, you know.
Sadly you never clarify your doubts with your spouse!
Why is it so?
You do not have friendly relationship with your spouse. Friendliness in your relationship is a must to make your interaction frank and candid. You sort out your misgivings with him\her reasonably and sensibly.
But friendship in marriage is a very rare phenomenon!
You have to censor your words when interacting with your spouse. You have to think twice before talking with him\her. This is the common scenario of modern marriages.
This is the reason why you snoop on your spouse instead of clarifying your doubts.
What are the kinds of snooping you do?
- You check his\her emails and messages.
- You check his\her bank account.
- You question his\her friends about his\her whereabouts.
- In extreme cases you hire a detective to spy on him\her.
- You sneak into his\her Facebook account.
- You eavesdrop his\her mobile conversations.
Utterly stupid, senseless and meaningless. Shows you in a very bad light.
Why do you stoop to such a low level?
What do you think the reaction of your spouse will be when he\she knows about your snooping?
It leads to inevitable arguments with venomous accusations from both sides.
Do you inquire about your spouse with his\her friends\colleagues?
You make your suspicion public and open to gossip.
Your married life is very personal to you, isn’t it?
Do you want others discussing it?
Don’t do it.
Money is yet another reason for your snooping on your spouse. You feel that your spouse has more money than what he\she states to you. You verify the passbook of your spouse when he\she is not there. You sneak into his\her online account.
Does snooping give you a true picture of your spouse?
It does not!
You assume everything from your angle which is not always be true. You make yourself sick with misery because you have many misleading information about your spouse.
This is where friendliness with your spouse comes to your help. Your doubts are cleared by him\her directly. You feel absolutely relieved of your misgivings.
Imagine the indignation of your spouse when you confront him\her of your snooping and doubting accusations! He\she realizes that you had been snooping behind his\her back.
Your spouse is terribly infuriated if your accusations are wrong.
He\she becomes defensive if your accusations are right.
Either way your marriage flounders!
You have intruded into his\her personal territory.
An unthinking blunder by you!
Never clarify your doubts when your emotions are all heated up and keyed up as your words are very harsh and accusing.
It is very easy to ruin your marriage by your snooping nature.
Do you like it if your spouse snoops on you?
You are terribly upset, aren’t you?
It is the same for your spouse also.
What if your doubts are authentic and real?
You should not snoop, but directly ask your spouse about your doubts. You should not confront him\her aggressively as it makes the atmosphere hostile and oppressive.
Do you want to end your marriage by being all accusing?
Or do you want to make it work by being all understanding?
I have known couples who overcame their suspicion. Their marriage survived. Snooping and spying scenes makes a movie\ story very interesting. But it makes your married life tense, tedious and oppressive.
Build your marriage on mutual faith! Never peep into your spouse! Rather look at each other with trust!