Teenage children can be quite a handful. This phase of their life is the biggest headache you face as a parent. Your kid child suddenly seems to have grown up. His\her behavior turns adult like.
You are totally taken aback by the change in the attitude of your teenage children, aren’t you?
What are the changes you see in your teenage children?
- They spend most of their time with their friends.
- They argue with you for minor reasons.
- They become very interested in their looks and dress.
- They become too fashion conscious.
- They feel that you know nothing.
- They think they know everything.
- They hide things from you
- They spend hours in the social media.
- They are always glued to their mobile phones.
- They become non-communicative.
Are you completely confused and mentally upset that your kid child is lost forever?
You have lots of confusing questions in your mind.
- Why does my child no longer depend upon me for emotional support?
- Why does he\she not talk with me as freely as before?’
- Why doesn’t he\she consult me about his\her life?
- Why does my child always back answer me?
I am sure most parents go crazy worrying about their teenage child.
You too are no different.
Teenage children – are you all at seas in handling them?
- He\she experiences a transition from childhood to adulthood.
- He\she feels you are too intruding into his\her private world.
- His\her experimenting world is entirely different from your experienced world.
- He\she feels you are too outdated and out of fashion.
- He\she thinks that you are too preachy.
Your emotionally clinging child is in the threshold of entering a new world of adulthood. So these are natural changes in all teenage children.
You too behaved in this manner with your parents when you were a teenager, didn’t you?
You should understand that your children cannot remain childish lifelong. He\she has to grow up.
You feel happy when your child grows up taller and stronger, don’t you?
He\she should also grow up psychologically and mentally. He\she cannot depend on you for emotional and financial support lifelong.
If your child is dependent on you for every decisions of his\her life, he\ she grows up weaker in mind. Your teenage child can never be confident and assertive if you dominate him\her.
When your teenage children argue with you, you should not think that they do not love you. He\she wants to know why he\she should to do things the way you think and not the way he\she likes. You should allow your son\daughter evolve on their own. It is then they develop discerning skills and the art of knowing the good and the bad.
It is also very natural for him \her to be attracted to the opposite sex. It is part of their growing up. It is true today’s teenage children indulge in sexual activities a little too early. They jump from one relationship to another with uncaring ease. If you restrict your child too much he\she wants to break free from the fetters you tie around them.
You should talk to your teenage children in a friendly manner about the values and morals of life. If you spy on them, they resent it.
Keep a keen eye on their friend’s circle. Bad friends can take your teenage children into the path of destruction.
If you do not love and respect the individuality of your teenage children, they do not like you. You should understand that your teenage children are entitled to their own inclinations and wishes. They have the right to choose their field of education.
Your way of looking at life need not be theirs also. After all your teenage children are growing up adults and have more worldly exposure than you. Let them learn lessons from their mistakes.
If you preach them about the moralities of life they dislike it. But you can be a role model to them by living your life properly. Your teenage children listen to your advice if you are friendly and calm. They retaliate if you argue with them in anger and bitterness.
Does this mean you do not have the right to tell your teenage children what is right and wrong?
You have all the rights. But you should allow them to explore the world so that they understand its harsh realities their way. Be their friend and not their adviser. Love your teenage children, but do not control them. Guide them but do not force them.