Are you struggling to make your interfaith marriage work?
This is a common problem couples who marry out of religion face.
I am sure you too struggle to make your interfaith marriage work. Marrying out of your religion often puts lots of pressure in your relationship. As years go by you gradually feel that your religious belief is better than that of your spouse.
This creates lots of unnecessary tension in your relationship.
However much you try, you can never forgo your religion. Religion is like your second skin. You cannot easily shed it. In fact there is nothing wrong in feeling devoted to your religious beliefs.
But you should not let religion come in between your love for each other. When both clash about your religion you cannot make your interfaith marriage work.
When you were in love your religious differences never occur to you. You easily overlook your diversified religion as you are more concentrated on your love.
You feel your spouse is the ideal person to spend the rest of your life with, even though he\she is from a different religion.
‘I love you when you bow in your mosque, kneel in your temple, pray in your church. For you and I are the sons of one religion and it is the spirit.’ –Khalil Gibran
But as years pass by, everything about your marriage changes. Your ardent love for your spouse changes to practical and realistic co-existence. You find yourself struggling to adjust to the different religious upbringing of your spouse.
You find it difficult to forget the religious rituals you had followed throughout your life because of your interfaith marriage.
Do you commit these silly mistakes which shatters your interfaith marriage?
- Fighting with your spouse about your different religious faith.
- Pressurizing your spouse to follow your religion.
- Insisting your children follow your religious faith.
Never make these mistakes.
Do you know success in marriage does not depend on religion, but on the love you have for each other?
But you never understand it.
After a few months of marriage, the frenzied love you had for each other loses its fervor. Your married life slowly settles down to normalcy.
You face life in all its harshness. You have many responsibilities thrust on you. You also feel the strain of having to adjust to the differences, the varied religion of your spouse thrusts on you.
After marriage the major mistake you make is forcing your spouse towards your religious beliefs. He\she tries to do the same. When you are forced to do something which you do not believe in, you revolt against the compulsion.
You want your children to follow your religion. Your spouse insists that they follow his\her beliefs.
Bringing up your children according to your religion turns your relationship into a bitter battle with each trying to outwit the other. You bitterly argue with your spouse over religion as if your married life depended on it.
If you allow your parents and in laws to advice you about religion you cannot make your interfaith marriage work.
Do you know why?
They give you wrong advice making things even more difficult between you.
They create havoc in your relationship by intentionally or unintentionally creating a religious rift between you. The repercussions of their unthinking advice makes your relationship highly tensed and stressed.
You can easily make your interfaith marriage work – Follow these easy and workable tips!
1. Never clash with your spouse about your religion. When you fight with him\her about religion it makes your spouse resentful and angry.
2. Never allow your spouse to change your religion. Religion is like a mother to you. You cannot change just because your spouse insisted on it. Forced conversion to another religion leads to tremendous hostility in your future relationship.
3. Allow your children to follow the rituals of both religions.
4. Never allow your in laws to give advice to your children about their religion. Set your boundaries with them.
5. Never compare your religion with that of your spouse.
6. Never bring religion into your arguments.
7. Be very careful when talking about the religion of your spouse.
8. Celebrate festivals from both religion with equal devotion.
9. Talk high about the religion of your spouse. It makes him\her to appreciate yours.
10. Allow your spouse to follow his\her own traditions without your interference.
11. Your spouse should give you the same freedom.
12.Never say unwarranted things about the religion of your spouse to your children.
13. Your spouse should be allowed to go to church\temple\mosque as might be his\her belief. This is an essential marriage etiquette which you should follow to make your inter-faith marriage succeed.
These simple tricks makes you enjoy good relationship with your spouse in spite of your religious differences. Follow it.
You married your spouse in spite of your religious differences,didn’t you?
Then you should not fight about it.
What does different religion tell us?
All religions invariably says good things about life.
I know a friend of mine who is a Hindu. She married a Muslim and to this day her husband never interferes in the belief of his wife. She does not interfere in his.
Do you know the name of their son?
It is Syed Ganesh.
Syed is a Muslim name and Ganesh is a Hindu name.
Wonderful way of making a interfaith marriage work, isn’t it?
So respect the religion of your spouse. This makes your spouse respect your religious beliefs.
When your love is true and genuine, religion can never interfere in your happiness.
When religious disagreements rear up their ugly head in your relationship it creates a wide rift between you. When you clash with your spouse about religion, it makes the atmosphere in your home very heated and hostile.
Your respect for each other intensifies when you follow these easy tricks. Your interfaith marriage survives and thrives when you turn your attention to your love and close your mind to your religious differences.