You are often confused about the expectations of your husband, aren’t you?
In fact, you never really know what your husband needs from you.
Do you know most marriages flop when the needs of each other is not met?
The expectations of your husband is unique and different.
You should understand that you cannot enjoy a good marriage if you do not know about the expectations of your husband.
“My wife never really understands me” my cousin lamented.
“Why do you say so?” I was surprised when he told me about his wife. I had always thought that they were very compatible.
“There are times when I feel terribly stressed by my work related problems. Never once has my wife observed it. She never has consoling words for me. It makes me feel very lonely in my married life” my cousin went on dejectedly.
“My wife also never trusts my capacity. She always compares me with her successful colleagues\relatives making me feel that I was not good enough,” my cousin told me annoyingly.
My cousin had many more complaints against his wife. I could now see that his wife never really understood my cousin from his male point of view.
My cousin’s wife is not a lone case of not understanding her husband. In fact, most of you commit the same mistakes as she does.
This attitude of not understanding the expectations of your husband makes him withdraw away from you.
You are often alarmed when your husband does not show his love for you, don’t you?
- Your husband goes to work without really interacting with you.
- When he returns home, he spends his time doing his own thing. He never really mingles with you.
- He only interacts with you about important family matters.
- He has sex with you when he is in the mood.
That is all your husband does.
You are utterly disappointed when your husband lives in his own world. You want him to be loving and caring as he was during your love days.
You often wonder where the love he had for you has disappeared, don’t you?
Don’t worry.
Your husband is indeed loving and caring. But he is very disappointed when you do not cater to his emotional needs. So, he keeps a safe distance from you, which you do not like.
Shall we now look at the top expectations of your husband?
1. He wants you to be understanding
Your husband is demoralized when you do not understand his male needs. As a man, your husband needs emotional back up from you, as he does not have your courage and will power.
He feels terribly upset by his work related problems.
He feels jittery in handling the financial issues of your family.
He is all at seas about bringing up the children.
Your husband does not open out about the stress and tension he is undergoing that easily to you, as he does not know what to expect from you.
Your husband wants you to understand that he is totally dependent on you for his emotional needs without openly talking about it.
2. He wants you to be a good mother
Your husband adores his children. But he does not have the capacity or patience to look after them.
Very selfish of him, isn’t it?
But this is how he is made up.
Your husband is tensed when you yell at your children. His nerves creep in irritation when you do not look after them with care.
He wants his children to look neat and tidy always.
He feels completely in love with you when you look after your children with care. He feels it is a big burden off his shoulders.
3. He wants you to respect him
You often shatter the ego of your husband by nagging him about his irresponsibility, shabbiness, and ineptness.
He wants you to respect him for what he is.
4. He wants you to trust him
Often you do not trust the ability of your husband. You compare him with your more successful colleagues\relatives and make him feel that he is nowhere near them.
When you do not trust your husband’s capacity, he loses his confidence and assurance. He becomes nervous and unsure about his ability.
His male ego is shattered when you make him feel that he will never achieve anything great in his life.
5. He wants you to be confident
Your husband is utterly dependent on your confidence to handle the problems that arise in your family.
He likes it when you do not cling to him to do your work.
It makes your husband feel relaxed when you face family issues with grit and determination.
6. He wants you to be presentable
Your husband hates it when you are shabby and disheveled when at home.
Are you wearing ill-fitting clothes when at home?
Is your hair frizzy and oily?
Your husband does not like it.
He wants you to wear good fitting clothes and look presentable before him.
He also does not like it when you look obese and plump.
He wants to be slim and trim.
7. He wants you to give him his space
Though your husband loves his family, he does not like to spend his whole time with them. You can spend hours with your children without getting bored.
But your husband is not made like that. He has his own world which might not include you or your children.
This is the reason he wants his personal space to do things he likes without the intrusion of his family. When you intrude into his private den, he is irritated and annoyed.
When you give him his space, he adores you for it.
8. He wants you to live within your income
Your husband wants you to think and spend.
He does not like you to spend too much money in clothing.
Though he does not open his mouth, he inwardly fumes when you buy tons of dresses.
9. He wants you to be frank and open
Your husband is all confused when you never tell him directly what you expect from him.
You can read in between lines, but your husband cannot. He can understand your needs only when you tell him directly about it.
Your husband is irritated when you tell your expectations the roundabout way. He just does not have the patience to understand what you truly want from him.
10. He wants you to be smiling
Your husband is unnerved when you look sad and depressed. It makes him feel that he is not a good husband.
But when you are smiling, his male ego is boosted as he feels it is he who is making you feel happy and content.
CONCLUSION
Can you see how intricate the expectations of your husband are?
And his expectations are not that difficult to follow. All it needs from you is an empathetic peep into his male world. It is quite different from your womanly world.
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