Do you know what husband hate in his wife?
You can multitask with effortless ease. You can single-handedly run your family. You are as successful as your husband.
But the sadly you turn a blind eye towards the psychological aspect of the male world of your husband.
Do you know your husband is averse about certain things you do?
Do you want your married life to be happy and peaceful?
See things from your husband’s viewpoint.
Top 10 things husband hate in his wife – Male disappointment
1. Loud and commanding voice
Are you in a habit of talking loudly?
Do ask your husband to do things in a commanding voice?
Your husband hates it. He wants you to be soft-spoken and gentle. Your strident voice makes him edgy and irritable. When you talk with your husband softly you will be astonished by the positive response you get from him.
2. Shabby appearance
You take pains to look your best when you go for work. When you return home you change into a grubby old dress. Your hair is disheveled. You smell of sweat and dirt.
How will your husband feel romantic towards if you are like this before him?
Be neatly dressed when he comes from work. Have a refreshing bath to smell good. Your husband likes it.
3. Always comparing
You compare your husband with your colleague who earns more than him. You compare him with your relative who is more successful than your husband.
You little realize that your husband is fuming inside in frustrated anger. If you want your husband to be successful motivate him in an encouraging way and not in a comparing way.
4. Always talking of money
Do you keep on talking about money with your husband?
He feels you are very money minded.
Do you crib about what your neighbors\friends\relatives have recently bought?
Do you insist you too want it?
Your poor husband feel all at seas not knowing how to satisfy you. Accept whatever your husband gets for you with a happy glow in your face. Your husband adores you.
5. Demanding all his time
Do you want him to spend all his free time with you?
Do you want to be taken out even if he is tired?
Do you restrict his fun time with his friends?
Your husband feels bored and jailed. As a man he needs his own spacing to do things he wants. Allow him that.
6. Unclean house
Nothing irritates your husband more than a cluttered house. Things littered around, sink overflowing with unwashed dish makes him highly irritable and touchy.
You should keep your home neat and tidy. It relaxes his mind as his frayed nerves unwinds by the cleanliness around him.
7. Nagging
Your husband hates your nagging. You nag your husband because you want things done in a certain manner and within a stipulated time.
You feel your husband is always lagging in fulfilling family commitments.
You keep on talking about it which sets his teeth on edge. Nagging will get you nowhere. Never be a shrewish wife but an understanding one to coax your husband to be more responsible.
8 . Closeness to your colleague or relative
Do you behave in close manner with your friend\relative\colleague?
Your husband hates it.
Never spend giggling moment with your male friends making your husband boil over in furious anger.
Behave in a restraint manner with your male friends. Your husband now easily makes friends with them. Do not spend hours in the cell phone with your friends when he is home.
9. Uncared children
Your husband feels you do not care for the family if you do not take care of your children. You should train your children to be neat and tidy always.
Do not yell at them. Your husband feels restless and angry. Be kind and caring with your children. He feels relaxed and happy.
10. Indifferent cooking
Do you cite your tiredness and cook an indifferent meal?
Though your husband understands your tiredness he wants a sumptuous meal.
When he sees you slouched before the TV after cooking a name sake meal he is tensed. Cook his favorite meals and serve with love. Do not talk about sensitive matters when he is eating. Make him feel content by talking to him with love and care.
You might well argue that you too work and you too feel tired. It is true that you are physically drained after a hard day’s work. But love for your husband gives you the energy to make him feel cared. The reward is immense and striking. You become his world.
Gala says
Some of these ideas are not well suited in a Western culture. We’re living in a world of equal rights and if husband doesn’t like untidy house or indifferent meal, he can clean the house and make a meal. He could even treat his wife to a candle light dinner now and then. As for the children, it’s also a shared responsibility and husband participates equally in their upbringing.
Mathi says
Gala,
Of course we are living in a world of equal rights. A wife is never inferior to her husband. But modernity in no way takes away the expectation of a man. Wife expects her husband to demonstrate his love for her, doesn’t she? Does that make her servile? No. It doesn’t. Married life would be much better if both catered to the expectation of the other.
Thank you for your comments. I appreciate it.
Gala says
Mathi,
Thank you for your reply, it clarifies your earlier point and makes sense now.
Best wishes.
Mathi says
Gala,
Thank you for understanding my point of view.