Do you feel you are a mature woman?
Then you will never make the relationship blunders of your immature counterparts.
Infantile love follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
Mature love follows the principle; “I am loved because I love.”
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.”
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.” – Erich Fromm. The Art of Loving
Beautiful words, aren’t they?
Relationship blunders literally makes your married life heated and boring.
Check out whether you are a mature woman who never commit these relationship blunders
1. You never complain
An immature woman often complains about the minor faults of her husband.
But you never do this.
You overlook the faults of your husband and concentrate on his good aspects.
You understand your husband from his male point of view.
You empathize with him.
You are tolerant and adjustable.
2. You never let go your financial independence
You know that your self-respect depends on your financial independence.
You are more than ready to share the financial commitments of the family.
But you have total control over the money you earn.
You never give away your financial rights blindly to your husband. Your mature mind well knows you will lock horns with him in the future about this.
3. You never play the all sacrificing wife.
You know your husband has equal family duties like you.
So, you emphasize that your husband share family commitments with you.
You make sure that the onus of total family burden is not thrust on you.
4. You never lose your identity
You love your husband.
But you are not slavish to him.
You respect your husband.
But you never worship him as though you were not equal to him.
You never let go your rights of doing things your own way.
5. You keep your family secrets intact
You never run to your parents\friends\relatives with personal details about your married life.
You never blow trumpet about your love for each other as to others. You know it is only between you two.
You also never crib and whine about the fights you had with your husband.
You resolve it within the four walls of your house.
6. You never let go your space
You know you need your personal space more than anything else. You enjoy your me time.
You allow your husband his me time.
You do not breathe down the neck of your husband.
You also never let him do it to you.
7. You are very appreciative
You know appreciation brings happiness in your relationship.
You notice the goodness of your husband keenly.
You instantly appreciate his tiniest love gestures.
You appreciate his ability.
8. You speak with your actions
You do not utter false words of love and care.
You show your love through your actions.
You show your dedication towards the family by being responsible.
9. You have your personal zone
You have your own personal world.
You never let go your hobbies.
You keep your interests intact.
You know that when you let go your personal wishes because of your husband it will lead to many future clashes between you.
10. You don’t sacrifice your family
You value your family.
You know your roots are with them.
You also never intrude into the love your husband has for his family.
Neither do you give him the stress of choosing between you and his family.
You can be young and mature.
You can be aged and immature.
It is not your age that decides your maturity level. It is your attitude of seeing your relationship without bias and prejudice that makes you a mature woman.
When you are immature you face many problems in your married life. But as a mature woman you know the don’ts and dos of a relationship. You understand the trick of not losing your unique identity. You also know the trick to be a good wife.