What does unthinking infidelity actually mean?
Most of you think that when you do not indulge in extra marital affairs you are being loyal to your spouse.
Well, not exactly.
The damage your insensitive behavior does to your married life is alarming.
Do you know you are unfaithful to your spouse in the way you behave with the opposite sex?
Beware of these unthinking infidelities which are as destructive as extra marital affairs.
Top 10 unthinking infidelity in married life -Dangerous play
1. Confiding with the opposite sex
Do you discuss important family matters with your colleagues\relatives\friends of the opposite sex?
This is very dangerous form of unthinking infidelity.
When you confide to another person it just means you are overlooking your spouse.
You have no trust in him\her.
Lack of trust is an indirect form of cheating.
2. Intimate Behavior
There are times you go overboard with the opposite sex.
Do you touch the opposite sex in the name of friendship?
You are over stepping your limits.
Do you have lingering eye contact with him\her?
Do you look coy?
Do you flirt?
These behaviors are totally unfair to your spouse.
You can look coyly at your husband. You can flirt with your wife.
Not with others.
It is one of unthinking infidelity you often indulge in.
3. Calling at untimely hours
Do you call your friend\colleague at untimely hours without the knowledge of your spouse?
This means you find that person interesting than your spouse.
Why should you talk with someone without your spouse knowing it?
It is blatant cheating.
4. Talking negatively about your spouse
If you have problems with your spouse you should discuss it with him\her frankly.
It is a hallmark of good married life.
But most often you never discuss your relationship problems with your spouse. You do it with your friends or colleagues of the opposite sex.
Talking negatively about your spouse with others is a big no. It makes them take intimate advantage of you.
5. Spending time with the opposite sex
Are you very friendly with the opposite sex?
You justify your behavior by insisting that you are just spending some fun moments with a person who is on your wavelength.
When your spouse never knows about your friendship it is cheating him\her, isn’t it?
Why don’t you show the same friendliness to your spouse?
It improves your relationship drastically.
6. You are emotionally distant
You never care to give emotional support to your spouse.
But when your colleagues\friends of the opposite sex have problems you go all out to support them.
You say caring words.
You call them often to enquire if they are ok.
You are watched by your spouse with anger and frustration.
Your spouse hates your unthinking infidelity.
7. Chatting in the social media without your spouse knowing it
This is one form unthinking infidelity most couples indulge in.
You chat with your ex.
You send messages to your school\college boyfriend\girlfriend.
All without the knowledge of your spouse.
Very dangerous to your relationship.
8. You talk in a whisper
Why should you be secretive when your spouse is around?
This shows you are hiding something from him\her.
When your tone is low your spouse feels very suspicious about you.
Talk in a normal tone when you are conversing with the opposite sex.
9. Uttering crude jokes
Do you laugh loudly at obscene comments?
Does your jokes border on vulgarity?
Do you utter it with the sole intention of making your interest obvious to the opposite sex?
Never do it.
It shows you in an indecent light.
As a man do you stand with your lower body thrust forward in a lewd posture?
Your eyes often linger on the body of a woman.
You are cheating your wife.
As a woman do you run your hands over your hair or adjust your dress in the full view of men?
You act as though you are very attractive to men.
You are indirectly cheating your husband.
It is small things that make or break your marriage. Extra marital affairs is physically cheating your spouse. But such unthinking infidelity is emotionally cheating your spouse. A very dangerous play.