You never really give the compliments your wife expects from you, do you?
Do you know it makes your wife very unhappy when you casually overlook her contribution in making your life comfortable?
Your poor wife craves for your compliments more than anything else. Strangely you never give it to her. But you are more than ready to pass sneering comments about her.
Far from it.
The compliments your wife expects are so simple that you would be amazed to know how uncomplicated it is.
Why are you averse to compliment your wife?
The simple fact is that you take for granted that it is her duty to look after the family. You are missing out the easiest way to make your wife feel loved.
When you compliment your wife it instantly sends her the message that you observe and notice her relentless work for the family. Your wife adores you when you notice her.
What are the compliments your wife expects from you?
- She wants you to compliment her looks.
- She likes you when you compliment her cooking.
- She adores you when you praise her before your friends\relatives\colleagues.
- She feels fulfilled when you make her feel that you cannot do without her.
- She feels thrilled when you praise her for being an excellent mother.
Not too difficult to fulfill her simple wishes, isn’t it?
1. You look beautiful
When in love you utter these magic words an umpteenth time. But after marriage you do not notice her beauty or the care she takes to look good before you. Your wife wants you to feel that she is beautiful. And she craves for your compliments about her beauty.
You look ravishing in the dress you are wearing.
Your eyes look beautiful.
I like the way your hair looks shining and glowing.
When you specify what you like about her looks your wife feels very loved and excited.
I am afraid you do not utter these compliments your wife expects from you as you have had enough of her beauty. But strangely your eyes rove around for beauty in other women. You never understand that you have the most beautiful woman in the world right beside you in the form of your wife.
Do you feel unnatural to compliment the beauty of your wife?
Don’t feel so. It should be the most natural thing in the world for you.
2. Wow! This tastes real good
My husband always complimented my cooking and it made me feel very loved and cared. Mind you, he would also lash out if my cooking was bad. Well, when I accepted his compliments I must accept his criticism also, mustn’t I?
When you eat without appreciating her your wife feels irritated that she had slogged long sweaty hours just to have you eat your stomach full without saying a word.
‘This is the best dish I have eaten’ your compliment wants her to cook even better for you.
3. She is a good wife
Are you among your friends\relatives\colleagues?
It shows you in a very bad light. This is one common complaint most wives have. In a crowd you get carried away and want to show yourself off as a very humorous person.
And the target of your unwelcome humor is always your wife. You make fun of her in the worst possible way thinking that you are being funny, while in actual fact you are being plain nasty. Your wife becomes angry and resentful against your insensitive behavior.
‘She is a good wife and takes loads of stress away from me’.
A simple compliment which makes your wife feel valued and worthy.
Why can’t you for once compliment her and see her glow with happiness?
4. I missed you
You feel lost when your wife is not around, don’t you?
You feel a vacuum within you when she is not at home. Don’t hide it from your wife. Confide it to her.
This is one of the topmost of compliments your wife expects from you.
‘I missed you!
Your open comment that you missed her presence is an emotional compliment your wife will never outgrow.
5. You are a wonderful mom
Can you manage your children for a single day?
You will be fatigued trying to cater to their clamoring demands.
But have you watched your wife?
She more than manages your kids. She guides them, molds them, looks after them with care and is always there for them. Something which you can never dream of.
You are a wonderful mom – Compliment her role as good mother.
When you never appreciate your wife she feels lost and unloved. But when you compliment her she feels completely loved by you. You make her feel her worthiness.
A hallmark of a good husband.