Married life has become a gamble – you either win it or lose it.
Because you never understand that marriage never works by itself. You have to make it work.
Can a plant survive without water?
Your marriage also cannot survive without certain very important elements.
- You need love.
- You need care and attention.
- You need spacing.
- You need togetherness.
- You need emotional support.
Without these qualities your married life is as good as dead.
Do you know that there are some unwanted qualities in your married life?
They are the red flags of your relationship. Never overlook them. Avoid them at any cost if you want your marriage to survive.
Top 5 red flags of married life – Stop before your relationship crashes
1. You are completely indifferent
Do you know indifference can literally kill your married life?
When you are indifferent to the feelings of your spouse he\she resents you.
What are the ways you are indifferent towards your spouse?
You do not console your spouse when he\she is downcast and dejected.
You never help your spouse through his\her difficult times.
You are so indifferent towards your spouse that you hardly notice him\her. You live in the same house as islands.
You never confide your inner feelings to your spouse.
Both go for work. Both look after your children. Both have routine and compulsive sex.
There is no loving interaction. No laughter. No sharing.
A drab relationship.
2. You never communicate
Communication is the essence of your married life.
Before marriage you kept on talking with your spouse. After marriage you keep silent and mum.
Do you feel talking about family issues with your spouse is what communication is all about?
You should be able to talk about anything with your spouse.
There should be no nagging fear that your spouse will take your words the wrong way.
There should be transparency in your interaction.
There should be mutual and frank discussion between you.
You should explain why you did certain things the way your spouse did not want you to.
You should voice your disagreement in an affable way.
Does this sort of communication exist in your married life?
Mostly it doesn’t.
3. You are ever criticizing
Do you keep on making negative comments about your spouse?
You don’t like the way your spouse dresses – So you make fun of him\her.
You do not like the way your spouse does things – So you ridicule him\her.
You are very intent on finding faults with your spouse. And you are too concentrated in making your dissatisfaction very obvious and apparent.
A very bad and disliked quality which literally makes your interaction hostile and oppressive.
4. You are ever accusing
You play the accusing game to the hilt. Whenever there is a problem in your family you instantly pinpoint your spouse as the reason for it.
This makes your spouse wild with anger.
You accuse your spouse for the financial mess your family experiences.
You accuse your spouse for your relationship problems.
Marriage is a game played by two people – you and your spouse.
You cannot always be right and your spouse cannot always be wrong.
You have to accept your mistakes graciously. It is not a shame on you. In fact you acceptance tells your spouse that you are committed and accountable.
5. You are completely self-centered
Being selfish is a quality your spouse totally dislikes about you.
Selfishness makes you thrust your parents on your spouse.
You want your spouse to bear the brunt of family’s financial commitments.
You always put yourself first.
You never let go your comfort zone.
You want your spouse to behave in a way you like.
You want your spouse to change according to whims and wishes.
Can you see the red flags of your relationship?
If you ignore it the resentment your spouse feels against you can snowball into a marriage wrecker.
Play fair in your relationship. Never be one-sided. The unhappiness of your spouse affects you also as you are in the same team.