It is sad when an unhappy child feels lost and unloved by his parents.
Do you know your child could also be unhappy?
You immediately disagree with me.
‘How can my child be unhappy when I take care of him with utmost love?’
But do you make your child understand your love?
This is where you fail miserably as a parent.
You are more concentrated on making him enjoy the best things in life than make him feel your love.
Sadly it doesn’t.
Modern children are very rich in gadgets, but very poor in happiness.
Never underestimate the agony of an unhappy child.
Do you want to know the signs which show that your child is very unhappy with you?
1. Being a loner
Does your child spend most of his time alone?
Does he feel uncomfortable in your company?
Is he always withdrawn and morose?
Top signs of an unhappy child.
It signals that you are very strict and stringent with him. When you keep on reprimanding him, he never wants to interact with you.
Be a friendly parent.
Never be too harsh on his small mistakes.
Don’t be too advising or too preaching.
Don’t always command him.
2. Throwing temperamental tantrums
When you do not cater to the inner needs of your child he throws up tantrums to draw your attention to him.
How does your unhappy child show his anger?
He throws things around.
He tends to bawl at the top of his voice.
He refuses to obey you.
Why does this happen?
You let your child fend for himself and never spend quality time with him.
You think buying things for him is your only parental duty.
A grave blunder.
Your unhappy child feels uncared and unloved by your unthinking attitude towards him.
So he demands your attention by throwing tantrums.
His bottled up resentment against you makes him behave violently at times.
Understand the reason behind his tantrums.
Spend quality time with your child.
Talk to him frankly.
Make him understand your love.
3. Persistent lying
Your unhappy child often lies to you about almost everything.
He hides his mistakes from you.
He never confides anything to you.
Why does your child lie to you?
The mistake yet again lies with you.
You never let him be a child.
You want him to behave like an adult.
You punish him in many ways –shutting him in a dark room\spanking him\using abusive words.
Your unhappy child is terrified of you.
He wants to escape from your harsh punishment.
So, he begins to lie to escape your anger.
Remember your child is very young. So, he is bound to make mistakes.
He will learn precious lessons from his mistakes.
Never be too punishing.
Never spank your child.
Never abuse him verbally and physically.
4. Refusing to eat
Does your child refuse to eat?
Does he often complain that he does not have appetite?
If your child refuses food when he is healthy it clearly signals that he is undergoing tremendous stress.
The reason is invariably you.
You compare your child with others. He hates it. He feels absolutely lacking in confidence. He feels so inferior about himself that he does not feel like eating.
Remember that when your child loses his appetite his health is affected.
Your child has his own pace. He cannot be what others are.
Be an encouraging parent and not a discouraging one.
5. He never interacts with you
Does your child talk to you without interest?
Does he reply in monosyllables?
Does he not join you for family dinner?
Does he keep to himself?
Is it a yes to all these questions?
Then he is an unhappy child.
Do not keep advising him.
Do not raise your voice against him.
Use lots of endearments.
He might talk out-of-the-way. Overlook it.
Ask him about his day in school. Talk to him about sports\movies. It makes your child unwind.
Do you know an unhappy child is a byproduct of your behavior towards him?
Be an understanding parent to know what your child wants from you. Otherwise he drifts too far away from you which making you feel a lost parent.