Why do married women cheat?
When you marry your husband loyalty towards him is your topmost priority. You love him so much that your whole world revolves around him.
Then how does cheating creep into your relationship?
Years ago infidelity was always linked to a man! Husband cheated his wife when he was physically attracted to another woman. He never thought that his marriage would suffer when he strayed from his limits to satisfy his lust.
This was the scenario some thirty years ago.
But modernity has changed everything!
Now women also cheat! They are also infidel!
Very astonishing, isn’t it?
Faith and loyalty towards your spouse are the pillars which makes your marriage withstand the many ups and downs in your married life.
Though you know that extra marital affairs can destroy your marriage what makes you cross the limits of loyalty towards your husband?
You as a woman is basically emotional. You crave for open display of love from your husband. But when your husband is staid and mundane in his interaction with you, you feel your married life boring, dull and lifeless.
Your love deprived mind screams for some consolation and open display of care. When you meet a person who touches you emotionally, your whole life turns topsy turvy. You feel wanted and cared. Something you never felt with your husband. The freshness you feel makes you drift into a relationship which you well know has a very short span.
There are many more reasons why you are unfaithful to your husband.
Do you want to have a peep into it?
Top 5 true reasons why married women cheat!
1. Emotional craving makes you cheat!
You are basically very emotional aren’t you? You desire for assurance from your husband that he cares and loves you. Your husband as a man is very practical! He wants you to feel his love and does not go about displaying it.
His routine and dull interaction with you makes you feel completely unloved and uncared. Your mind craves for words of assurance from your husband that he is always there for you. But he is indifferent towards your emotional needs. He makes you feel deprived and lost.
Suppose your male colleague\friend\relative listens to your woes with care!
What if he says supporting words you so much crave for?
He makes you feel cared and sheltered, doesn’t he?
He seems so different from your husband! Very loving and caring! A person you dreamed of. You are obviously moved and touched.
When you see the person daily and work\interact with him in close proximity you feel drawn towards him. You open out your feelings to him. When you get the reaction you had always dreamed of from him, his image looms large in your mind. The image of your husband dulls into a faraway background. You are now ready to cross the border.
2. The absence of your husband makes you lonely!
Does your husband work abroad?
Do you have to face family problems all alone?
Do you spend lonely hours at home?
You long for some companionship who can do away with your loneliness.
Does your male colleague\relative fill in the absence of your husband?
Your mind tells you that you are being disloyal to your husband. But the newness of the relationship makes you blind to the impact your affair will have on your marriage. Your relationship with the other person is exciting initially. But eventually your find that there is no real emotional bond in your new found connection.
Imagine the reaction of your husband when he comes to know about your affair!
Don’t be foolish and think that he will never know.
He will definitely know it from some source.
What do you think will be the result?
Your husband is furious. The person for whom you were unfaithful to your husband is now bored with you!
You find yourself all alone!
3. The other person makes you feel loved and appreciated
You want to be appreciated by your husband don’t you?
You want him to appreciate your beauty\intelligence.
But he does seem to have the inclination to appreciate your looks or talent.
You feel unwanted when your husband overlooks your finer points! ‘He is emotionless and cold’ inwardly you curse his dull behavior.
But when you are appreciated by your male colleague\friend\relative you feel womanly and utterly feminine. Something which your husband was unable to do!
‘You have excellent cooking talent’ your new friend says when you share your lunch with him. You feel happy and emotionally touched because you have not experienced such reactions from your husband. You enjoy your time with him. You want to be with him. You want his physical proximity. All these are a prelude to an illegal affair.
4. Clash of character
Another emphatic reason for you to slip into an extra marital affair is the immense difference of character between both!
Shall we look at an example!
Let us suppose you are an extrovert while your husband is an introvert!
You feel suffocated by his taciturn nature. You want to talk while he wants to keep silent.
When you interact with an extrovert colleague\relative\friend who excites you with his sense of humor and fun loving nature you are drawn towards him. ‘He is pure fun and he has shown me the happy aspect of jolly interaction’, you feel thrilled inwardly when you think of him.
The difference in nature between you and your husband makes you draw away from him. You are now more drawn towards the happy –go-lucky –person who has the same wave length as you.
5. You do it with willingness
What does willing infidelity mean?
Some few years ago this comment would have created gasping disbelief as casual flings by women were uncommon.
But with the world becoming permissive, extramarital affairs no longer creates any negative reactions. In fact it is accepted as a part of human weakness.
You mingle with your male colleagues\friends\relatives freely. Small physical contacts between you become very casual and normal.
‘What my husband does not know is not going to hurt him’ your modern mentality tells you. In fact your sexual misdemeanor does not affect you at all. You feel it very natural to be intimate with your male friend. You never feel guilty when you return home as if nothing happened.
It becomes an exciting adventure with you and you want more and more intimacy with your friend. When there is no dividing line between you and your male friends or colleagues it becomes natural for you to be disloyal to your husband.
But you do not understand that you are forgoing your married life for a relationship which is meaningless and worthless.
Infidelity causes irrevocable damage to your marriage!
You lose your peace of mind!
You lose the love of your husband!
‘There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the ending we’re unprepared for.’ – Katherine Owen
When you find certain characteristics of your husband disliking, you should talk with him in a friendly manner and discuss in a reasonable way about your expectations.
The excitement and pleasure of any new relationship does not last long. You feel bored to continue the affair once you get fed up. To give in to physical pleasure at the cost of your marriage will make your life torturous and guilt stricken.