Meeting your ex after a bitter break up makes you feel agonized and depressed, doesn’t it?
Most of you never really recover from your break up.
You are not quite normal when meeting your ex happens, isn’t it?.
Yes.
Thousands of butterflies flutter in your stomach when meeting your ex happens unexpectedly.
In fact, you never want to meet your ex after all the agonizing trauma you went through.
But the world is small and your chances of meeting him\her is fairly high.
What should you do when you meet your ex?
Meeting your ex may devastate you, but you must remain composed.
1. Do not be talkative
Do not act bubbly or talkative when meeting your ex happens.
Never try to prove to your ex that you have got over the break up by being unnaturally talkative.
There is no need to go blah, blah with him\her.
Does this mean you should avoid talking with your ex when he\she voluntarily comes to talk to you?
No.
Don’t avoid him\her, as he\she means nothing to you.
So, be very formal and normal in your interaction.
Talk for a while and move away from the place.
2. Do not show your enmity
You might have had a bitter break up. That is done with.
Do not ask your ex the reasons for his\her bitter break up with you. It clearly shows to the person that you have not yet got over him\her.
If you still feel bitter towards him\her give a half-smile and turn away.
Make the break up clear-cut and final.
3. Do not introduce your present partner
Do you want to show your ex that you are well off without him\her?
There is absolutely no need for that. Do not deliberately act cozy with your present partner just to irritate him\her.
What should you do when your ex comes face to face with you?
Of course, you feel nervous. But, do not show it.
Be calm, cool and dignified.
What should you do when your ex introduces his\her now girlfriend\boyfriend to you?
Nod your head.
‘You seem to be busy. Good luck. See you later’ saying those words keep moving away from him\her.
3. Do not text your ex
Do not message your ex after meeting him\her.
This shows your eagerness to catch up with him\her. Messaging clearly signals the emotional hold your ex still has over you.
No phone calls too.
Never lower your self-respect and try to talk to him\her.
When your ex has completely got over you, you too should do the same.
4. Do not allow your ex to behave closely with you
Does your ex try to have physical contact with you when he\she meets you?
It shows how insensitive he\she is.
Don’t let it happen.
Also, never be excited and emotional when you talk with your ex.
It shows you as a fickle person with no loyalty towards your present partner.
5. Ignore your ex if he\she ignores you
What should you do when your ex deliberately pretends you are not there?
You too should act as though meeting your ex never happened. Ignore him\her completely.
Do not go voluntarily to make it known you are there. It is not at all needed.
Meeting him\her can happen. Take it in your stride.
Are you nervous?
Do not show it.
“Blaming the ex for the breakup is like blaming the clothes for not fitting you.” Khang Kijarro Nguyen
Conclusion about meeting your ex
It is quite impossible to be normal and friendly with a person who deserted you.
There is no need for friendliness at all. There is no need for nastiness too.
When meeting your ex happens, behave as if he\she is just someone who means nothing to you. Make the break up final and decisive.
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