Do you want perfect marriage?
A normal wish, isn’t it?
But sadly you are disappointed that your marriage is not as perfect as you thought it to be.
You are not alone in feeling so. You are in fact one among the many couples who feel that their marriage is not perfect.
Face the harsh fact.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage.
Then why this title?
I can feel your doubts. Most of you feel utterly bored with your marriage as you are not satisfied with your relationship.
You are being silly.
How can two persons from different family background live together for years without any hassles and misunderstanding?
It is perfectly normal to have differences of opinion with your spouse.
But it is abnormal if you do not adjust to it.
Make efforts to enjoy prefect happiness in your imperfections.
Top 5 easy ways to a perfect marriage – Will it remain a dream always?
1. THROW AWAY YOUR DREAMY EXPECTATIONS
Idealistic expectations makes you feel depressed when it is not met.
You are shattered when your expectations about perfect marriage fall flat on its face, aren’t you?
Forgo this thought.
- Realize that your spouse is very human with his\her own drawbacks.
- Your way of thinking need not be his\hers also.
- Accept your spouse as and how he\she is.
- Never make much ado about the small faults of your spouse.
Dreamy expectations always remain a dream. Be grounded and practical to understand that you have to adjust to your humanly faulty spouse.
2. EMPATHIZE YOUR SPOUSE
Do you empathize with your spouse?
You do not.
In fact you confuse empathy with sympathy.
They are two different emotions.
You can easily sympathize with your spouse as it is all about pity. You murmur a few consoling words to your downcast spouse. You hug him\her. That is it. This is not enough to make a perfect marriage.
Empathy is entirely different. It is the most needed aspect in your relationship. But most ignored also. Empathy makes you see things from the point of view of your spouse. You get into the shoes of him\her. You actually live your married life from the angle of your spouse.
Very tough, but works wonders to your relationship when you adapt it. You will be amazed by the new sense of understanding which develops between you.
3. SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
Spend valuable time together with your spouse.
Most of you never feel like interacting with your spouse.
You return home dead tired from your work. You feel completely lackluster.
You do not feel like interacting with your spouse. All you want is some rest and peace.
If at all you converse with your spouse it about some important family issues. Utterly compulsory and boring. It in no way helps to make your relationship happy.
What does spending quality time with your spouse actually mean?
Your time together should convey love and care.
You should enjoy your togetherness.
You might be too tired to talk with your spouse. But the loving smile you exchange with him\her tell million stories about your care.
Go for long walks talking incessantly about innocuous topics.
Keep on communicating.
Have direct eye contact with your spouse.
Do not be glued to the computer\TV.
4. NEVER OUTGROW YOUR SPOUSE
Have you ever outgrown your children?
Your love for them intensifies as they grow.
But strangely you outgrow your spouse very easily. After a few years of marriage your bottled up resentment bursts out with venom. You stop communicating with your spouse. You ridicule your spouse for silly reasons. You often argue with him\her.
Both play love guessing game to perfection.
Love not expressed openly is not love at all.
What is the use of hiding your love in your heart?
Say ‘I love you’ many times a day to your spouse. Feel an amazing reciprocal love from your spouse.
Apologize instantly when you are in the wrong. ‘I am sorry’ magic words that instantly conveys your care. Tackle family problems together.
5. NEVER LOSE HUMOR
Humor plays a vital part in making a perfect marriage.
Humor drives away the monotony in your relationship.
It lightens a tensed situation into a lighter vein as you laugh it away.
Watch comedy shows together and laugh your heart out.
You will enjoy it.
Always seek each other. It makes you feel belonged.
Have a practical outlook towards your spouse. Love him\her for what he\she is. Never search for a perfect spouse. You never find it. Don’t forget you are also not a perfect spouse. Perfect marriage exists only in fairy tales. Not in reality.