Top practical ways to communicate with people makes your interaction with others interesting and stimulating. People should remember you. You should never be one among the crowd any time in your life.
Does this mean you have to make great efforts to communicate with people?
Communicating with others is an easy habit everyone can practice. But sadly most of you lack communication skills. It is because you never think it as a gateway to great success in life. You will be surprised to know it is!
- Do you freeze in speechless silence when you meet strangers?
- Do you hesitate to view your thoughts to others?
- Are you tongue tied when you meet famous people?
- Do you cringe in fear when you have to report to your boss?
- Is your voice a whimper when you talk with others?
If you say yes to these questions you lack the art of communication.
Unless you communicate with people you cannot hope for triumph. Most of you communicate only within your circle of friends. You enjoy their company as you have no reservations regarding them.
Suppose you have the opportunity to meet the American president?
What would you do?
I am sure you would feel at the top of the world! Well! It is a great honor, isn’t it? After all he is most powerful man in the world.
When you pass the security checks your confidence quivers in uncertainty. When you are finally ushered in to meet him you do not have words to say to him. His fame and aura of power overwhelms you. You fumble a few words of praise about him. He shakes your hand. He utters formal words of welcome. You take photos. That is it! Your time with the President is over.
Do you know what you have done?
You have literally kneeled down before the President in slavish reverence?
You have missed the greatest opportunity of your life by being non communicative. The aura of fame and supremacy that surrounded the President struck you dumb.
Why do you fear powerful people?
It is because you put them in a pedestal. You feel you are lesser than them.
In what way are you lesser than them?
The President of America is unknown in the villages of India. The villagers would blink in confusion if you utter his name.
So everyone has fame only within their limits. Fame and success is not an aspect to be frightened of. When you throw away your fear for people you feel it easy to communicate with everyone.
Do you know that famous and successful personalities also have their own share of inhibitions and fear?
Just as you fear them they too feel tongue tied to talk with you as they do not have anything to talk with you.
Why do you fear to communicate with others?
- You fear the fame of others.
- You feel you would the rebuffed.
- You feel inferior about yourself.
- You fear the reaction your communication would evoke from others.
- You are apprehensive you would utter wrong words.
In actual fact you have doubts about your capacity to communicate.
You also have doubts about the reaction of the other person.
This is a common fear most people have. I too had this fear. I would literally freeze when someone approached to talk with me. My voice would be a mere whimper. But now I am totally different. I make friends easily. I talk freely about anything with anyone.
How did I find the courage to communicate with others?
It was when I lost my fear. When I realized that everyone were as human as me, I lost my fear. When I knew that others too like to interact with me, I liked to talk with them. I cultivated my communication skills.
Yes, the art of communication can be practiced. When you develop your communication skills you find that you are a totally changed person. Well-liked by others! You understand their world. You develop extraordinary confidence.
Top practical ways to communicate with people
- Do not fear others.
- Even if others do not talk with you, go forward to talk to them.
- You would be surprised when they are more than ready to talk with you.
- Make them feel important by remembering their names. Everyone like their names.
- Look directly into their eyes.
- Smile at them with friendliness,
- Your voice should be assertive and firm.
- Be a great listener. People like to communicate with you when you listen to them.
- Say thank you even if you receive the tiniest of help. THANK YOU is a wonder word!
- You should be outgoing.
- You should not show off your knowledge as it puts people off.
- You should be natural and normal.
- You should be empathetic. It draws people towards you.
- You should not be stiff and put on airs when you interact. People hate it.
- Do not be cynical and abusive.
See how simple and practical it is to be communicative!
When I see a person frequently in a shop or in the streets I smile at them. Do you know it has given me many new friends?
There are people whom you see continuously in a bank\your regular grocery shop\a beauty parlor. But you never smile at them because you feel they mean nothing to you.
How do you extend your friends circle if you do not communicate with others?
Of course there are times when people look through you even if you smile at them. They are not meant to be your friends. But there are a large number of people who reciprocate in a friendly manner when you interact with them. They are meant to be your friends.
Even famous people have their apprehensions and doubts. In fact much larger and much pronounced than you. They are terrified to utter one wrong word. The media laps it up, doesn’t it? Outwardly they move in a clan of their own status. But inwardly they feel lonely and artificial when they have to interact superficially about things that has no meaning or worth.
Have you seen the movie ‘Titanic’? Did you see how artificial the interaction between the rich was? Picture perfect! But so artificial and lifeless!
This is not true communication!
Yet another most important trick to be good in communication skills is that you should talk their language. Here I am not talking about the linguistic part of language. Do not show off your riches when you interact with people who are not blessed with such assets. They hate you for this. Be normal and friendly with them. They like you!
When you are with famous people, do not be servile. Your firm communication should deliver the message that his fame does not overwhelm you in any way. Do not whimper and whisper when you talk with them. It makes feel GOD LIKE, which they are not.
Communication skill is a talent and an art which can be cultivated. It opens a new world to you. You make lots of friends. It leads you into the path of great success and fame in your life. Definitely!