Infidelity in marriage literally kills your relationship.
Without loyalty your married life cannot survive.
You should be loyal to your spouse and he\she should be loyal towards you. Fidelity is mutual. Never one-sided.
Few years back, infidelity was always linked with men and it was assumed that women were always loyal. But with modernity turning the meaning of married life upside down wife cheat as good as her husband.
Why does infidelity creep into your relationship?
You never imagined your spouse would be disloyal to you.
If so, you wouldn’t have married him\her, would you?
You marry your spouse with great expectations. You visualize your married life to be rosy.
‘It would be a continuation of our love days’ you vow to yourself.
But you are in for a shock after marriage. Your spouse is not what you expected him\her to be. Your dreams about a perfect marriage is broken to pieces. It is as though you have married an unknown person.
You easily lose interest in each other. This makes your married life drift along aimlessly.
Top ways infidelity destroys your marriage – Emotional destruction
Infidelity does not happen all of sudden. It is actually a snowballing effect of your indifferent relationship.
While mutual trust makes you married life stable and strong, infidelity throws your relationship to the wolves.
You are emotionally devastated when your spouse is infidel, aren’t you?
You fight bitterly with your spouse when his\her infidelity leaks to your ears.
You do not suspect your spouse without reason. His\her actions showcase his\her infidelity openly to you.
What makes you doubt your spouse?
- The sudden eagerness of your spouse to look different and attractive.
- His\her total indifference towards you.
- Talking for hours in the mobile in a low tone makes you very suspicious.
- Your spouse denies sexual contact with you and wants to sleep alone.
- He\she comes late from work regularly and does not bother to give you any explanation.
- Your spouse makes derisive comments about you.
You are shattered when you know that your spouse is infidel to you, aren’t you?
What are the after effects of infidelity by your spouse?
- You are a nervous wreck when he\she is late from work.
- The atmosphere in your house becomes very oppressive.
- You want to get out of your relationship.
- You sneakily spy on the whereabouts of your spouse.
Physical attraction is the main reason for your spouse straying out of the line.
But for how long will the physical infatuation of your spouse last?
Might be for a few days or even for a few months! As suddenly as it began his\her illegal affair ends. Your spouse now wonders why he\she cheated you for such a temporary feeling.
Outside-marriage- relationship are always temporary and fickle. When your spouse overcomes his\her emotional and physical needs with the other person his\her immediate thought is the family.
But the harm has already been done.
‘If you cheat on someone who is willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself out of true loyalty.’- Unknown
Your spouse wants to come back to you.
Your anger has not subsided. You want to throw your spouse away from your life. But you dare not. You do not want your children to suffer. You fear the social stigma. You are utterly confused.
Should you accept him\her?
You can take back your spouse if you are ready to forgive and forget. But you should talk it out elaborately with him\her. Your spouse should listen to your rightful angry outburst.
Your spouse owes you an explanation. Never let it go lightly as your marriage cannot withstand another betrayal.