What is the true meaning of marriage! Here is the myth broken!
Do you think it is just the ceremonial unison of a man and a woman as husband and wife?
I just read a definition of marriage.
- It is ‘The state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife, in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.’
But don’t you think that the above definition is a cold and emotionless statement about marriage?
Is marriage just a legal bond?
There is more to marriage than this. Its true meaning is entirely different. Marriage binds you in an emotional bond. And your married life is a battle of varied emotions between you.
Emotions like these batter and shatter your mental peace. This is the reason why most marriages fail.
“A long-lasting marriage is built by two people who believe in -and live by- the solemn promise they made.” – Darlene Schacht
It is a sad reality that you never understand the true meaning of marriage. If you really imbibe the true meaning of marriage you will forgo these negative emotions. You will bring in loving understanding into your relationship to make your marriage a great success.
What is the true meaning of marriage? The myth broken!
- It is a holy bond between two people from diversified family background who unite together in love and who support each other in all ups and downs of life.
There are certain basic principles you should compulsively follow to make your married life meaningful and worthwhile. The percentage of dedication you show in following these basic principles decide the proportion of happiness in your relationship.
But something has gone wrong with modern marriages that you have to struggle to make your marriage survive.
Mistake number one– You have great dreams about marriage- all rosy and all blissful!
But in reality married life is an entirely different scenario.
Yes, married life gives you happiness as well as stress. You are bombarded by one issue after another in your day to day life. You literally yearn for a problem free marriage.
Well, there is no problem free marriage anywhere in the world. If you long for it, it is not going to happen. Your problems should not make you deviate from your spouse. It is now you have to join hands with him\her to solve it in unison.
Why is the true meaning of marriage not followed by the modern couples?
Here is the myth broken!
The grammar of marriage is completely misconstrued by the contemporary generation. You feel the euphoria of love on your wedding day and you want to follow your marriage vows to the dot. But this intention is very short lived as within few months of your marriage, your love loses its sheen and glow. It becomes dull and lackluster.
Why is it so?
You enter into your married life with great and often unrealistic expectations. You think that your married life will be a continuation of your love days. But when you begin your life together you see new negative facets of your spouse which you never thought existed.
Now slowly disappointment and frustration sets into your relationship.
It is as if you are living with a totally different person. It takes great sustaining power from you to adjust to the new situation and to the newer side of your spouse. It is the same for your spouse also. He\she too feels that you are totally different from the person he\she loved.
What are your expectations from your spouse?
- You want to be loved (fair enough!)
- You want to be taken care of( reasonable expectation!)
- You want your spouse only for yourself (the first step to major issues in marriage!)
- You compel him\her to do his\her duties sincerely(you fail to understand that you too have your duties to fulfill)
- You want respect from your spouse(understand that this wish is mutual)
- You expect your married life to be rosy and blissful (a day dream!!!)
Great expectations always disappoint. Unrealistic expectations about your spouse always falls flat on its face when you start your life together. When you were in love, your life is totally different. You can afford to be happy-go-lucky and completely light heartened. That is why you find your love days so idyllic!
These expectations makes you dream about your spouse in an idealistic way. And when he\she is not according to your impractical imagination, you crumble inside in utter disappointment.
Forgo unrealistic expectations about your spouse. Be rational and practical in your interaction. Blend love into it. You will enjoy your married life.
Mistake number 2 – you are very demanding and commanding. Always remember demands and commands can make your relationship very taxing and tedious.
When you have fewer demands, you get more love from your spouse and you are happy.
What does true meaning of marriage really involve?
- Overlooking faults
- Acknowledging the good points of your spouse
- Unconditional support
- Liking the company of each other
- Demonstrating your love
- Protecting your spouse
- Not hoarding bitterness
- Prepared to give in
“Keep the fire lit in your marriage and your life will be filled with warmth.”- Fawn Weaver
It is sad your marriage is like an orphan with the above mentioned aspects unattended and unnoticed by you. Notice it! Follow it! This is the true meaning to your marriage.