You want to make people like you, don’t you?
To make people like you is an art. It can be easily cultivated.
Sometimes you like a person without any reason. If you observe his nature, you will see that he has certain qualities that appeal to you.
Sometimes you dislike a person for no valid reason. If you observe him you will notice he has qualities you abhor.
Do you think you need to be a perfect person to be liked by all?
Not at all.
There is no perfect person in the whole world. It is very human to have faults. When the percentage of good dominates the bad in you, you can call yourself a good person. These qualities make people like you with all your faults.
Cultivate those habits.
Very easy and very simple to do.
‘Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them’- Norman Vincent Peale.
Top 6 sure ways to make people like you – Easy way to success
1. Humbleness can make people like you instantly.
Have you seen some people?
Their success in life makes them think they are some sort of a demi-god. Affluence and wealth gets into their head. They become unapproachable. They do not see people on equal footing. They think they are a class apart from others.
You hate such people, don’t you?
But their success is very temporary. They will definitely face downhill in life. On their way down they meet people they had shamed on their way up.
This is the law of nature.
Sachin Tendulkar, a great Indian cricket player who has broken world many records is very humble and down to earth. He is adored in India for his humility. In every country there are famous people who never let fame get into their head. This unique quality makes them loved by all.
Develop humbleness. It makes people like you.
2. Listening capacity is great
I was eagerly talking with a relative of mine when I went to visit her. Even as I talked I could see that she was only half listening to me. Her attention was focused on a TV serial.
This completely put me off. I could not talk any further. I took leave almost immediately.
What made my relative behave the way she did?
She was not interested in me and showed it plainly by focusing her attention elsewhere.
People instantly realize when you are not listening to them.
When your eyes wavers and do not have direct contact with them, it instantly sends the signal of your disinterest.
Listen intensively to what people say and interact with them with compassion and empathy. People like you as they realize they have a friend in you.
3. Self-confidence makes you trustworthy
Stand before the mirror and look at yourself.
What sort of a person looks back at you?
If you look back with lips tight with gloom, eyes dull and shoulders drooping, you do not like yourself.
When you do not like yourself, how can you expect others to like you?
Imagine yourself with your lips titled in smile, eyes looking confident, shoulders erect with assertiveness. You like yourself. And you are spontaneously liked by everyone.
When you like yourself, people like you. But if you dislike yourself, people too dislike you.
Simple trick, isn’t it?
When you are glum people stay away from you as they know that your interaction will be gloomy and boring.
When you talk negatively you exude negative vibration. So people deviate from you. But when you are optimistic you radiate positive energy. People want to interact with you as they know you will make them feel refreshed by your positive approach to life.
5. Presentable appearance.
Certain people immediately attract your attention by their well-groomed appearance.
Every age is a beautiful segment of your life.
In teenage you are vibrant with refreshing youth.
In middle age you have mellow and mature splendor.
In fifties you develop magnificent personality.
In seventies and eighties you tower above others in your experience and knowledge.
Do not ape the youth when you are past that age. Dress according your age. You will be appreciated by all.
Some people feel that they are past all the good things in life when they enter the fifties. Nothing can be farther from truth. You should be impeccably dressed even when you age.
It is the magic that make people like you.
5. Sense of humor.
Do you have an excellent sense of humor?
I am sure people like you. When you have the capacity to laugh and make others laugh people are drawn towards you.
No one likes a morose person. Everyone loves a humorous person.
When you are dull your conversation is gloomy and pessimistic. People side step you as they know you will pull their energy level down.
When you are cheerful your interaction is humorous and full of fun. People are drawn towards you as they know your talk will make them feel pepped up.
6. Sensitivity to the feelings of others
When you are callous to the suffering of others, no one wants to be your friend.
But when you are sensitive to the problems of others you are liked by them as they know they have a friend in you.
People should see a friend in you. They should have the confidence that you will place your hands on their shoulders when they come to you with their predicaments.
Success in your life cannot be had if you do not have good relationship with others. You need people to succeed.
You cannot have the cooperation of others if you are not liked by them.
Empathize and make people like you.
Sympathize and make people your ally. Smile and make them your friends. Cultivate humane qualities to make people like you.