Unless you accept your spouse for what he\\she is, your married life flops miserably.<\/p>\n

When in love you interact with each other in excitement and enthusiasm.<\/p>\n

Your love days are always carefree and fun loving. It is only after marriage that you realize you are entering into a different world.<\/p>\n

A world of responsibilities and commitments.<\/p>\n

There are times when you are overwhelmed by the plethora of duties you have to fulfill. You feel strained and pressurized by the pile up of responsibilities in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Responsibilities change your nature. You become serious and focused on fulfilling your duties.<\/p>\n

Your newly acquired responsibilities makes your interaction with your spouse very matter of fact.<\/p>\n

When in love you did not have to demand the attention of your spouse.<\/p>\n

You got it spontaneously and instantly. You felt so loved and cared by him\\her.<\/p>\n

But after marriage your spouse does not pay that much of attention on you.<\/p>\n

It is at this stage that disappointment and discontentment slowly creeps into your relationship.<\/p>\n

You are bewildered at his\\her slightly indifferent behavior towards you. It makes you feel that he\\she no longer loves you.<\/p>\n

You are wrong.<\/p>\n

It is not lack of love that makes your spouse seem uninterested to interact with you. It is his\\her total concentration on his\\her family duties that makes your spouse slightly sober and serious.<\/p>\n

Disappointing social status, lack of commitment, indifferent attitude, stress and tension convert your expectations into disappointments.<\/p>\n

You crave for great standard of living. You feel disappointed when you are forced to live a mediocre life of the middle class.<\/p>\n

When you keep comparing your lifestyle with others you feel disappointed with your married life. \u00a0The standard of living of others should never be a scale for your happiness.<\/p>\n

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When you want your spouse to spend every minute with you, you are perpetually disappointed.<\/p>\n

You feel shattered when the frenzied love you had for each other does not last.<\/p>\n

You are disappointed when your spouse does not share your household chores.<\/p>\n

He\\she \u00a0makes you disappointed by being commanding and demanding – a completely different behavior from your dating days.<\/p>\n

There are lot of ego clashes between you. Topmost in the list of disappointments in your married life.<\/p>\n

How to avoid disappointments in married life?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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• Be practical and sensible.<\/li>\n
• Realistic approach to your relationship is the only way to avoid unwanted disappointment.<\/li>\n
• Do not expect cinematic display of love from your spouse. You will be disappointed.<\/li>\n
• Even though he\\she does not say it in words, you have to realize the love of your spouse through his\\her actions.<\/li>\n
• Understand that your spouse is an individual and so prone to be different.<\/li>\n
• Be tolerable and adjusting.<\/li>\n
• Do not imagine all your expectations will be fulfilled by your spouse.<\/li>\n
• Your relationship needs reciprocal contribution from both to make your disappointment disappear.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  Do your colleagues and friends behave in a way you expect?<\/p>\n

  They don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

  But you are not at loggerheads with them?<\/p>\n

  No.<\/p>\n

  You adjust with them.<\/p>\n

  You tolerate them.<\/p>\n

  You co-exist in peace with them.<\/p>\n

  Why is it so?<\/p>\n

  It is because you do not have dreams about them. You do not have expectations about them. You accept them as they are.<\/p>\n

  This is what you should do with your spouse also. The main success to your marriage is to accept your spouse as he\\she is. Do not make much ado about the minor differences of opinion you have.<\/p>\n

  It is common in all marriages.<\/p>\n

  Do not thrust your ideas and thoughts on your spouse. \u00a0Do not lessen your love for your spouse just because he\\she is not what you thought him\\her to be.<\/p>\n

  Conclusion<\/h2>\n

  Be level headed and practical to realize that your disappointments in married life does not mean you are experiencing failed relationship.<\/p>\n

  When you are rational you realize that your love days were days of unrealistic dreams. It is your married life which is very real and factual.<\/p>\n

  And so more genuine!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

  Disappointments in married life makes you feel completely upset doesn’t it?   Why? You often have dreamy and unrealistic expectations about your spouse before marriage. Dreams are invariably impractical, isn\u2019t it? \u2018This is not the married life I expected. I had great dreams about my spouse. But every dream I had about him\\her has been […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[72,80,353,111,186],"yoast_head":"\n