Your children love you and your spouse equally. You know that your separation could shatter them mentally and psychologically.<\/p>\n

In fact, I know many couples whose interaction is always warring and confrontational. \u00a0But they stay together for the sake of their children.<\/p>\n

When you adjust with your spouse for the sake of your children it brings in many surprising and beautiful changes in your married life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A conversation I had with Selvi, a girl I knew, made me realize that children tighten your relationship with your spouse.<\/p>\n

\u201cI had a fight with my husband and I thought I would never be able to talk to him normally as he spoke words that hurt me too badly\u201d she said angrily.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat happened then?\u201d I asked her with a worrying look.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy son wanted to go to a theme park as it was weekend. I hated to go out with my husband because my hurt was deep. But I didn\u2019t have the heart to disappoint my son. So, I agreed to this outing which my son so yearned for, even it was being with my husband. But, I didn\u2019t talk to him and in fact I did not look at him\u201d she added.<\/p>\n

\u201cDo you know an astonishing thing that happened when we went out? Unaware of our tension, my son involved both of us in exciting conversation about how much he was enjoying himself. Surprisingly his enthusiasm made me forget my bitterness. We shared fun and laughter together and things were back to normal between us\u201d she now said with a bright face.<\/p>\n

This is the effect your children have on your relationship. They form a bridge between you and your spouse.<\/p>\n

Does this mean your marriage survives only because of your children? <\/strong><\/p>\n

If this was the case why do couples with children divorce?<\/p>\n

Why do many children suffer the trauma of a broken home?<\/p>\n

It is true that your marriage cannot survive without love. Your children can make you live in the same house but they cannot make you love each other. Love and care for your spouse should come from within you.<\/p>\n

You feel stifled and stilted to interact with your spouse if there is no true love between you.<\/p>\n

Your mind revolts against the injustice of living with a person you no longer love.<\/p>\n

You feel you have nothing in common with your spouse when things go wrong between you.<\/p>\n

Your relationship with your spouse becomes very strained and uncomfortable.<\/p>\n

But in spite of all these relationship problems you want to stay in your marriage to give your children emotional security.<\/p>\n

Yes, your children act as a truce to the tense relationship you might have with your spouse.<\/p>\n

Shall we see how your children help to save your marriage?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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• The playful antics of your children always make you and your spouse cheerful. It lightens the tense atmosphere at your home.<\/li>\n
• They form a bridge between you and your spouse.<\/li>\n
• They cheer up the strained relationship you have towards your spouse.<\/li>\n
• They become a common topic to interact with your spouse.<\/li>\n
• They make you adjust with your spouse.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  When you stay in your marriage for a few years you get used to the character of your spouse. You find him\\her not that unloving and uncaring. In fact, there are lots of good things about him\\her you never thought existed. Surprisingly you become emotionally attached to each other.<\/p>\n

  Your children give your family an emotional umbrella which no other aspect of your relationship can give.<\/p>\n

  You adjust with your spouse to make your marriage work as you do not want your children to suffer the complexities of a broken home.<\/p>\n

  Conclusion<\/strong><\/p>\n

  \u201cPeople are looking for stability in a shaky world. They want something they can get hold of that’s firm and sure and an anchor in the midst of all of this instability in which they’re living.\u201d- Gordon B. Hinckley<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

  Your children act as a connective bridge between you and your spouse. They help you hold your tottering marriage together. They act as oxygen to your dying marriage. They narrow the widening rift between you.<\/p>\n

  Will you now agree that your children save your marriage from failure?<\/p>\n

  Share your experience!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

  Do you know there are many a time your children save your marriage from failure? \u201cMy husband has changed drastically after marriage. He is not the person I loved. In fact, there is nothing common between us except our children.\u00a0 I am with him only for the sake of their happiness. They love him and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n