{"id":3451,"date":"2015-12-26T14:20:22","date_gmt":"2015-12-26T08:50:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/?p=3451"},"modified":"2017-05-21T02:31:57","modified_gmt":"2017-05-21T06:31:57","slug":"initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 5 initial problems in the first year of marriage – New responsibilities and crashed expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"
The initial problems<\/strong> in<\/strong> the<\/strong> first year<\/strong> of marriage<\/strong> makes you nervous and anxious, doesn’t it?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Your rosy expectations about your spouse is destroyed.<\/p>\n You are sure your spouse is not what he\\she was before marriage.<\/p>\n Don’t worry.<\/p>\n Most couples face these initial problems in the first year of marriage.<\/p>\n After all you are new to each other, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n You have to get used to the behavior of your spouse- many times entirely different from that of yours.<\/p>\n But sadly you feel that the initial problems in the first year of marriage will be permanent. This makes you feel all keyed up and tensed.<\/p>\n You are wrong.<\/p>\n Initial problems in the first year of marriage are all teething problems.<\/a><\/p>\n Aching and painful.<\/p>\n But very temporary.<\/p>\n Unfortunately, a marriage license doesn\u2019t come with a job description or a set of instructions. There is definitely \u2018some assembly required\u2019. In fact putting together a modern day marriage can be likened to assembling an airplane in flight\u2019-Patricia Love<\/strong><\/p>\n The wedding of Sadhana, my friend\u2019s daughter was held in a very grand manner. \u00a0The decorations were made with classic taste. I also observed with wonder the color sync of the dress of the bride and bridegroom with the marriage d\u00e9cor.<\/p>\n The smiling and the excited faces of the couple added even more beauty to the total atmosphere. Well! Well! Today\u2019s youngsters really had excellent and unique taste, I told myself.<\/p>\n But I was in for a shock when I visited my friend\u2019s house a couple of months later. My friend\u2019s daughter looked listless and jaded.<\/p>\n ‘My marriage is a total failure, aunty’, she told me tearfully.<\/p>\n \u2018You are just married, Sadhana. Why do you feel your marriage is a failure? I was worried for the girl.<\/p>\n \u2018My husband is not the person I loved. He has changed so much that I feel I am living with a stranger\u2019.<\/p>\n She kept on listing complaints about her husband. All innocuous and harmless. But she made it sound as though her husband was a sadist. Her youthful ignorance about marriage made me sad.<\/p>\n