{"id":3451,"date":"2015-12-26T14:20:22","date_gmt":"2015-12-26T08:50:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/?p=3451"},"modified":"2017-05-21T02:31:57","modified_gmt":"2017-05-21T06:31:57","slug":"initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/initial-problems-in-the-first-year-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 5 initial problems in the first year of marriage – New responsibilities and crashed expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"

The initial problems<\/strong> in<\/strong> the<\/strong> first year<\/strong> of marriage<\/strong> makes you nervous and anxious, doesn’t it?<\/p>\n

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Your rosy expectations about your spouse is destroyed.<\/p>\n

You are sure your spouse is not what he\\she was before marriage.<\/p>\n

Don’t worry.<\/p>\n

Most couples face these initial problems in the first year of marriage.<\/p>\n

After all you are new to each other, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

You have to get used to the behavior of your spouse- many times entirely different from that of yours.<\/p>\n

But sadly you feel that the initial problems in the first year of marriage will be permanent. This makes you feel all keyed up and tensed.<\/p>\n

You are wrong.<\/p>\n

Initial problems in the first year of marriage are all teething problems.<\/a><\/p>\n

Aching and painful.<\/p>\n

But very temporary.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, a marriage license doesn\u2019t come with a job description or a set of instructions. There is definitely \u2018some assembly required\u2019. In fact putting together a modern day marriage can be likened to assembling an airplane in flight\u2019-Patricia Love<\/strong><\/p>\n

The wedding of Sadhana, my friend\u2019s daughter was held in a very grand manner. \u00a0The decorations were made with classic taste. I also observed with wonder the color sync of the dress of the bride and bridegroom with the marriage d\u00e9cor.<\/p>\n

The smiling and the excited faces of the couple added even more beauty to the total atmosphere. Well! Well! Today\u2019s youngsters really had excellent and unique taste, I told myself.<\/p>\n

But I was in for a shock when I visited my friend\u2019s house a couple of months later. My friend\u2019s daughter looked listless and jaded.<\/p>\n

‘My marriage is a total failure, aunty’, she told me tearfully.<\/p>\n

\u2018You are just married, Sadhana. Why do you feel your marriage is a failure? I was worried for the girl.<\/p>\n

\u2018My husband is not the person I loved. He has changed so much that I feel I am living with a stranger\u2019.<\/p>\n

She kept on listing complaints about her husband. All innocuous and harmless. But she made it sound as though her husband was a sadist. Her youthful ignorance about marriage made me sad.<\/p>\n

She seemed to represent the modern youth who make much ado about the initial problems in the first year of marriage.<\/a><\/p>\n

The euphoria of happiness you feel when you marry the person you ardently love has never been experienced by you before. You literally glow in your love for your spouse. The initial days of your marriage are truly delightful and you just can\u2019t have enough of him\\her.<\/p>\n

But the sad thing about marriage is that this initial happiness is not a prediction of an everlasting happy married life.<\/p>\n

Soon both come to the harsh reality of day to day life. This is when the true test to your marriage begins. The pressure of living together slowly has its telling effect on you.<\/p>\n

After marriage, you are thrown into the harsh world of responsibilities and commitments. It is as though your love for each other has faded.<\/p>\n

Your dreamy expectations about your spouse is crushed and thrashed one by one.<\/p>\n