Is over possessiveness about your spouse a real display of your love?<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

Possessiveness is a beautiful emotion. It makes you feel belonged to your spouse.\u00a0The feeling that your spouse belongs to you is very important for your married life to glow with love.<\/p>\n

You do not feel belonged to any Tom, Dick and Harry, do you?<\/p>\n

Let us suppose you are in a crowd.<\/p>\n

There are many people around you and you do not feel emotional bond with any of them. But when you see your spouse you react in a different way.<\/p>\n

Your eyes turn towards him\\her, you smile at him\\her and you move towards him\\her. You instantly feel a sense of belonging enveloping you.<\/p>\n

This is the possessiveness you need in your married \u00a0life.<\/p>\n

How does possessiveness contribute to your married life?<\/p>\n

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• It makes you sympathetic when your spouse is unhappy.<\/li>\n
• It make you care for him\\her.<\/li>\n
• Your heart aches when your spouse is facing problems.<\/li>\n
• You co-exist as couples and branch out as a family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  Yes.<\/p>\n

  Without possessiveness your spouse is like a stranger who means nothing to you.<\/h3>\n

  But what happens when your possessiveness crosses its border?<\/p>\n

  Have you seen the sea?<\/p>\n

  The vast area of water, the foamy waves and the sea green color never fails to attract you. You are overawed by the magnificent creation of God.<\/p>\n

  But the same sea becomes a terror when tsunami strikes.\u00a0The water crosses the border and destroys everything on its way. Its aftermath is destructive and devastating.<\/p>\n

  It is the same with over possessiveness.<\/p>\n

  It literally destroys your happiness and peace of mind as your over possessive nature is always emotionally insecure.<\/p>\n

  \u2018He\\she is mine\u2019 is an emotional possessive attachment towards your spouse.<\/h3>\n

  But \u2018he\\she is only mine\u2019 is a destructive over possessive emotion.<\/h3>\n

  Just because your spouse is married to you, it does not mean he\\she can never have any personal desires or wishes. He\\she is an individual and so entitled to his\\her own freedom and liberty.<\/p>\n

  When you are over possessive about your spouse, you intrude into almost everything he\\she does. Your married life becomes very oppressive and jailed. Your relationship has no freedom, no spacing and no individuality.<\/p>\n

  Your over possessive nature makes you indulge in asking doubting questions, spying and snooping. Your spouse hates it all.<\/p>\n

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  • Forgo your over possessiveness.<\/li>\n
  • Do not be commanding, demanding and clinging. This makes your spouse withdraw from you.<\/li>\n
  • Proper spacing and freedom are essential for a good marriage.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    \u2018Do not become possessive. The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other; grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple. At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.\u2019 \u2013 Ritu Ghatourey<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Being over possessive about your spouse can never make him\\her love you. Instead he\\she distances himself\\herself away from you because of your clinging nature.<\/p>\n

    The trick to a happy marriage is to balance between too little possessiveness and too much over possessiveness.<\/p>\n

    Too little possessiveness makes you lag behind in love. Over possessiveness makes you steal the privacy of your spouse. Both bad for your marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Are you over possessive about your spouse? You often are. But you never know it. You love your spouse intensely, don\u2019t you? Your spouse means the world to you. So you go all out to show the intense love you have for him\\her. But sadly you show your love the wrong way! In your eagerness […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[53,442,441,440,268],"yoast_head":"\n