In-laws – the word itself sends shivers down your spine, doesn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

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Mother-in \u2013law, father-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law are not actually your family. But they become part of your family after your marriage.<\/p>\n

When you marry your spouse, you marry his\\her family also. Your in-laws become part of your life. Though they do not directly influence your married life, they definitely decide the happiness quotient in your relationship.<\/p>\n

You never like your in-laws, do you?<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

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• You never feel belonged to them.<\/li>\n
• You feel that they are too intruding and interfering.<\/li>\n
• You feel that they destroy the peace in your married life.<\/li>\n
• You feel they emotionally blackmail your spouse.<\/li>\n
• You feel they are too snooping and meddlesome.<\/li>\n
• You also feel they are leaching your spouse off his\\her money.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  Does this mean all in-laws are like this?<\/p>\n

  No.<\/p>\n

  There are many who know their boundary and stay within their limits. You enjoy a good relationship with them.<\/p>\n

  But sadly such in-laws are far and rare.<\/p>\n

  Why are in-laws intolerable and boring? \u2013 Are they interfering intruders?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

  You fight with your spouse about your in-laws often, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

  Why is it so?<\/p>\n

  Your roots are always with your family. When a new family enters into your life you do not feel the emotional bond you enjoyed with your parents and siblings.<\/p>\n

  You also feel the vast difference in the selfless love your parents showered on you and the demanding behavior of your in-laws. This makes you feel emotional towards your family. And you turn aggressive and hostile towards your in-laws. You fume at their audacity to comment about you and your family.<\/p>\n

  You feel you owe your love and loyalty towards your spouse alone. You think his\\her family very alien to you.<\/p>\n

  Top mistakes you make towards your in-laws<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  • You never think of them as your family.<\/li>\n
  • You keep comparing them with your parents.<\/li>\n
  • You never make any efforts to understand them.<\/li>\n
  • You never set your boundaries.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    How to have good relationship with them?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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    • Understand that they can never replace your parents.<\/li>\n
    • Have enough spacing.<\/li>\n
    • Show them good hospitality when they visit you.<\/li>\n
    • Never have any expectations about them.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Top mistakes in-laws make<\/strong><\/p>\n

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      • They never accept the fact that you have become more important in the life of their son\\daughter.<\/li>\n
      • They feel they have more rights than you \u2013 the worst mistake they make.<\/li>\n
      • They try to dominate you.<\/li>\n
      • They are forever comparing and complaining.<\/li>\n
      • They never know their limits.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        How can in-laws have a good relationship with you?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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        • They should step away from the life of their son\\daughter.<\/li>\n
        • They should know their limits.<\/li>\n
        • They should refrain from advising unless it is sought.<\/li>\n
        • They should look the other way when you have tiff with your spouse\u00a0 -you can resolve it among yourself.<\/li>\n
        • They should never pass unnecessary comments.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

          Can there be two heads in a family?<\/a><\/p>\n

          No.<\/p>\n

          It creates unnecessary hostility and enmity.<\/p>\n

          It is always better to have enough spacing and enjoy good relationship with your in-laws. Otherwise you clash and fight with them as if they were your enemies. And the one to suffer is your helpless spouse.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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