You never really understand why you should pamper your spouse, do you?<\/p>\n

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“Is my spouse a child that I should pamper him\\her?”<\/p>\n

“My spouse is an adult and should realize my love without me pampering him\\her.”<\/p>\n

Most of you feel this way about pampering your spouse, don’t you?<\/p>\n

You are wrong.<\/p>\n

You cannot enjoy your relationship if you do not pamper your spouse. Pampering is the easiest way to show your love. It is the only way to make your spouse feel cherished by you.<\/p>\n

And pampering your spouse adds incredible happiness to your married life.<\/p>\n

Do you know that when you pamper your spouse, both become more intimate and emotionally closer to each other?<\/p>\n

“It would be a strain to me if I have to cater to all the wishes of my spouse. How can I be indulgent to the childishness of my spouse while I have so much family responsibilities on my shoulders?”<\/p>\n

Did you think pampering your spouse means giving in to all his\\her whims and wishes?<\/p>\n

Did you think pampering meant being at the service of your spouse 24\\7?<\/p>\n

Or did you think pampering meant showering your spouse with costly gifts?<\/p>\n

Again you are wrong.<\/p>\n

You need not exert yourself to pamper your spouse.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Most of you have misunderstood what pampering your spouse actually means.<\/p>\n

It does not mean treating your spouse like a child. Or giving in to all the whims and wishes of your spouse.<\/p>\n

Treating your spouse like a child gives only transitory pleasure to him\\her. The real pleasure of pampering means much more.<\/p>\n

The real meaning of pampering your spouse is understanding his\\her inner needs and being indulgent enough to fulfill it.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Top ways to pamper your spouse<\/strong><\/h4>\n

1. Pampering the child in your spouse<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you know there lurks a child in everyone?<\/p>\n

Your spouse also has a child in him\\her.<\/a><\/p>\n

Your spouse has his\\her own childish traits. But after marriage, your spouse loses the childishness in him\\her as there are many responsibilities to be fulfilled.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Most of you kill the child in your spouse by being dominating and controlling. Naturally your spouse feels lost and alone in his\\her relationship with you.<\/p>\n

As your years go by, the work load and duty load of you and your spouse increases.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But the child in your spouse remains dormant within him\\her starving for your pampering.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When you do not pamper your spouse, the child in your spouse feels lost and uncared.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Sadly, you frown at the childishness of your spouse. It is because you feel your spouse should act grown-up and mature.\u00a0<\/p>\n

This is not the way to pamper your spouse.<\/p>\n

Understand your spouse from his\\her point of view. Give respect to the individuality of your spouse.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Do not thrust your views on your spouse.<\/p>\n

Never try to change your spouse according to your liking.<\/p>\n

Not very difficult ways to embed in your relationship, is it?<\/p>\n

This is the sort of pampering your spouse needs from you.\u00a0<\/p>\n

2. Give your spouse time to do personal things<\/strong><\/p>\n

Understand the simple fact that though your spouse is married to you, he\\she is a\u00a0very different individual with a very different upbringing.<\/p>\n

Different way of upbringing means different ways of looking at life.<\/p>\n

Your spouse might want to spend time alone doing his\\her own thing.<\/p>\n

Your spouse might want a personal shopping.<\/p>\n

Your spouse might want to laze around doing nothing, at least once in a while.<\/p>\n

Does the wishes of your spouse mean that he\\she is being selfish in wanting to do things which does not involve you?<\/p>\n

No.<\/p>\n

It does not.<\/p>\n

It just means that your spouse is fulfilling his\\her personal wishes. And when allow your spouse that much of space to fulfill his\\her childish wishes, your relationship blooms with satisfaction.\u00a0<\/p>\n

3. Be physically indulgent\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of you never know how much physical indulgence means in\u00a0 marriage?<\/p>\n

You feel sex is the only time to touch your spouse.<\/p>\n

How wrong can you be?<\/p>\n

Your spouse wants you to cuddle him\\her up to you. But you coolly ignore this basic need of your spouse. The child in your spouse shrinks with agony.<\/p>\n

Your spouse eagerly comes to interact with you. You kill the child in your spouse by looking all over the place except at him\\her. Naturally your spouse feels ignored by you.<\/p>\n

Never be like this.<\/p>\n

Cuddle your spouse up to you when he\\she sits beside you.<\/p>\n

Pat the cheeks of your spouse affectionately.<\/p>\n

Hug your spouse unexpectedly.<\/p>\n

Kiss your spouse without sexual intent.<\/p>\n

Such physical gestures convey your love emphatically. And your spouse feels pampered and indulged by you.\u00a0<\/p>\n

4. Be overlooking<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you make much ado about the minor faults of your spouse, he\\she feels the heat.<\/p>\n

When you become accusing and blaming, you make your spouse very unhappy.<\/p>\n

But suppose you overlook the minor faults of your spouse?<\/p>\n

Suppose you let your spouse do his\\her work the way he\\she likes?<\/p>\n

Suppose you say sorry when there is an argument between you?<\/p>\n

This is what real pampering your spouse is all about.<\/p>\n

5. Be patient<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of you lose patience with your spouse.\u00a0<\/p>\n

You become impatient when your spouse is late in getting ready for an outing.<\/p>\n

You are impatient when your spouse does things his\\her way.<\/p>\n

You are impatient when your spouse tries to explain his\\her point of view.\u00a0<\/p>\n

You are hasty to yell at your spouse.<\/p>\n

When you are impatient, your spouse feels his\\her relationship with you stifling and oppressive.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But when you are patient towards your spouse, he\\she feels absolutely pampered by you.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Conclusion\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Can you see that to pamper your spouse, you need not buy him\\her costly things?<\/p>\n

Pampering your spouse just means catering to his\\her inner most desires, without trying to dominate him\\her.<\/p>\n

Most of you take the responsibilities of your married life seriously and forget to pamper your spouse.<\/p>\n

Your spouse commits the same mistake.<\/p>\n

When there is no pampering in your relationship, there can be no real emotional intimacy between you.<\/p>\n

Family responsibilities will always be there. Never let it bring in stress into your relationship.<\/p>\n

Pamper your spouse to show the extra love he\\she needs. It converts your relationship into a beautiful co-existence.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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