1. Be explaining <\/strong><\/p>\n

Explanation is a fantastic way to enjoy transparency in your married life.<\/p>\n

When you explain to your spouse any misgivings he\\she might have about your activities it makes your interaction comfortable and relaxed.<\/p>\n

Are you late from work?<\/p>\n

You must have some valid reasons for it.<\/p>\n

Do not keep it within yourself and leave your spouse furious and worrying about the reason behind your late coming.<\/p>\n

When you give your spouse prior information that you will be late, he\\she feels relieved and relaxed.<\/p>\n

Explaining to your spouse about what you do or what you intend to do brings in pronounced trust and faith into your relationship.<\/p>\n

Informing your spouse about your decisions\\activities is an easy trick which delivers great results in your marriage.<\/p>\n

Explaining to your spouse the reasons behind your angry outbursts does away with needless resentment and anger he\\she harbors against you.<\/p>\n

2. Do not be secretive <\/strong><\/p>\n

Let us suppose your mobile rings when you are with your spouse.<\/p>\n

Do you talk in a normal tone?<\/p>\n

This is the way to be transparent with your spouse.<\/p>\n

Do you explain to your spouse whom you were speaking to?<\/p>\n

Yet another healthy sign of transparency in marriage.<\/p>\n

But when you move away from your spouse to talk in a hush-hush voice for a very long time, it signals lack of transparency between you.<\/p>\n

It makes your married life very tense and suspicious. When you do not explain whom you were talking to, it makes your spouse doubtful and wary.<\/p>\n

Your spouse should know what you are doing and you should know what he\\she is doing.<\/p>\n

It makes your relationship so much more comfortable and easy to live.<\/p>\n

3. Be frank about your money dealings<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lack of transparency in your money dealings might lead your marriage towards failure.<\/p>\n

When you do not explain to your spouse about your loans, commitments and repayments it causes tremendous bitterness and resentment in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Do you have the duty of looking after your parents?<\/p>\n

Inform your spouse. It is your hard earned money and you have every right to help your parents.<\/p>\n

But do not hide it from your spouse. Do it openly and tell your spouse about your financial duty towards your parents. Your spouse can never refuse when you do it openly.<\/p>\n

4. Say no to behind-the-back relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do not have stealthy friendship with your friends\\colleagues of the opposite sex without your spouse knowing about it.<\/p>\n

You should always maintain a dignified distance from the opposite sex.<\/p>\n

Spending out- of- work- time with your colleagues\\friends of the opposite sex without the knowledge of your spouse is a big no.<\/p>\n

Such secretive relationships do irrevocable damage to your marriage.<\/p>\n

5. <\/strong>Be informing<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of you never inform your spouse about your decisions. When you do not inform your spouse about what you intend to do with your life, it shrouds your relationship with unwanted secrecy.<\/p>\n

Your spouse should be the first person with whom you should share the important decisions you have made. It might be about your job, or it might be about your financial investments.<\/p>\n

Inform your spouse about such important decisions.<\/p>\n

This transparency brings unbelievable emotional intimacy between you.<\/p>\n

It is always better to have frank discussion with your spouse than make your own decisions without informing him\\her.<\/p>\n

6. Share your feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you are secretive about your feelings, your spouse never really knows what is going on in your mind.<\/p>\n

You should share your emotions with your spouse so frankly, that he\\she knows how you feel about certain things he\\she does.<\/p>\n

Let your guard down with your spouse and share just about everything with him\\her.<\/p>\n

It brings incredible emotional intimacy between you.<\/p>\n

Conclusion <\/strong><\/p>\n

A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.\u2019 \u2013Dalai Lama<\/strong><\/p>\n

Does being tranparent with your spouse mean that you do not have the privacy or freedom to do your own personal things?<\/p>\n

Of course you have right towards your privacy.<\/p>\n

But privacy is entirely different from secrecy.<\/p>\n

Secrecy is lack of transparency. It makes your relationship mysterious and full of of suspense and intrigue.<\/p>\n

Mystery might be good for movies. Not for married life.<\/p>\n

Privacy is personal space for yourself and your spouse.<\/p>\n

Both are two different persons with diverse wishes and desires.<\/p>\n

The need to fulfill your own personal wishes should be respected by your spouse. You should respect the same of him\\her.<\/p>\n

But lack of tranparency in your married life means that you are not emotionally close to your spouse.<\/p>\n

It makes your interaction with your spouse resentful and moody.<\/p>\n

But when there is transparency in your marriage there is absolute frankness and honesty in your interaction.<\/p>\n

This avoids many problems that might otherwise arise when you are sneaky and sly with your spouse.<\/p>\n

So, have enough freedom in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Explain, discuss and inform your spouse about yourself.<\/p>\n

Let your married life have the transparency of clear water. Makes your marriage very refreshing and very energizing.<\/p>\n

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