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\u00a0<\/strong>Expectations<\/strong> vs reality<\/strong> in<\/strong> married<\/strong> life<\/strong> has many mind-blowing differences and disappointments in store for you.<\/p>\n

\"expectations<\/p>\n

You have many expectations about your spouse before marriage. But end up with intense disappointments after marriage. This is a common modern marriage scenario.<\/p>\n

Why is expectations vs reality in married life a shocking experience for you?<\/a><\/p>\n

The answer is simple.<\/p>\n

Your expectations are based on your perfectionistic imagination about your spouse.<\/p>\n

Imagination has no limits, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

You weave many idealistic images about your spouse before marriage. And he\\she more than fulfills your expectations before your marriage.<\/p>\n

Both put your best foot forward during your dating days. This makes you feel sure that your marriage will be idealistic and heavenly. You like many qualities about your spouse which makes you dream about a perfect marriage.<\/p>\n

But after marriage, the qualities you admired in him\\her is replaced by qualities, you dislike.<\/p>\n

Yes!<\/p>\n

Your expectations vs reality in married life <\/a>has many shocking disillusionment in store for you.<\/p>\n

There are times you find it difficult to cope up with your crashed expectations.<\/p>\n

Now the war between expectations vs reality in married life begins to shatter your mental <\/strong><\/h2>\n

peace.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

1. Expectation about love before marriage –<\/strong>Ever green love<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You are confirmed that your love for each other will never lose its sheen. You are sure that your rosy love days would continue throughout your married life.<\/p>\n

Both whisper sweet nothings before marriage.<\/p>\n

You spend many hours talking with each other before marriage.<\/p>\n

You just cannot wait for your wedding day.<\/p>\n

You take your marriage vows emotionally and feel on the top of the world.<\/p>\n

Reality about love after marriage –<\/strong>Dried out love<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Though you love each other, both do not have time to display it.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

After your marriage, many responsibilities are thrust on you. You can no longer afford to be carefree.<\/p>\n

Your concentration shifts from being lovey dovey, to being committed to your family duties. Your spouse does the same.<\/p>\n

This makes both feel frustrated, unloved, and uncared. You are utterly disappointed that you have permanently lost the newness of your love.<\/p>\n

2. Expectation about money before marriage –<\/strong>Money does not matter<\/strong><\/h3>\n

In your crazy love for each other, you do not attach great importance to money before your marriage. You are emotional to feel that your money belongs to your spouse also.<\/p>\n

You are lavish in gifting your spouse. You lend money easily whenever he\\she asks you.<\/p>\n

You are sure money would never intrude into the love you have for each other.<\/p>\n

Reality about money after marriage –<\/strong>Money does matter<\/strong><\/h3>\n

After marriage, you feel your earnings are your own.<\/p>\n

You are angry that your spouse leeches you off your hard-earned money.<\/p>\n

You think twice before spending for your spouse.<\/p>\n

You are no longer interested in helping him\\her financially.<\/p>\n

You fight bitterly about sharing of financial commitments of your family.<\/p>\n

3. Expectation about sex before marriage –\u00a0<\/strong>Our sex life will always be exciting<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Before marriage, you have great dreams about your sex life.<\/p>\n

In the initial days of your marriage, your sex life excites and thrills you. Both have regular sex.<\/p>\n

You satisfy the sexual needs of your spouse with eager willingness.<\/p>\n

Reality about sex after marriage –<\/strong>Our sex life is boring and routine<\/strong><\/h3>\n

After a few years of marriage, sex becomes a dull routine with you.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

You are famished by your hectic work schedule and sex is far away from your mind.<\/a><\/p>\n

If at all you have sex, it is very hurried and hasty. Nothing to feel excited about.<\/p>\n

4. Expectation about relationship before marriage –<\/strong>I will never fight with my spouse<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Before marriage, you do not have any major issues with your spouse.<\/p>\n

You do have arguments, but it is very mild and non-controversial.<\/p>\n

You apologized when you were in the wrong.<\/p>\n

You accepted the apology of your spouse instantly.<\/p>\n

There was no bitterness and resentment in your interaction.<\/p>\n

Reality about relationship after marriage –<\/strong>We have nothing in common<\/strong><\/h3>\n

But after marriage, you fight with your spouse day in and day out.<\/p>\n

Whatever he\\she does makes you feel irritated and annoyed.<\/p>\n

You do not want to adjust to his\\her minor faults.<\/p>\n

You become accusing and complaining.<\/p>\n

You never apologize to your spouse as you feel you are always right.<\/p>\n

You are so hostile towards your spouse that you do not talk with him\\her for days.<\/p>\n

5. Expectations about emotional support before marriage –\u00a0<\/strong>I will always be supportive<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Before marriage, you feel upset when your spouse is upset.<\/p>\n

You pacify him\\her when he\\she is downcast.<\/p>\n

You have many consoling words to say.<\/p>\n

Your spouse feels he\\she has married the best person in the world.<\/p>\n

Reality about emotional support after marriage –<\/strong>I just don\u2019t care<\/strong><\/h3>\n

After marriage, you are not bothered when your spouse feels low.<\/p>\n

You feel he\\she makes much ado about nothing.<\/p>\n

You have many hurting words to say.<\/p>\n

You are never supportive or protective.<\/p>\n

CONCLUSION<\/h4>\n

\u201cAfter elections and marriage, people rarely get what they want.\u201d Will Rogers <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Expectations vs reality in married life is a shocking experience, isn\u2019t it?<\/a><\/p>\n

Do not have too many expectations about your spouse, as it will never happen. You have to be practical to realize that your spouse will be different. When you forgo your expectations and come to terms with the reality of your marriage, you can easily enjoy it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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