You often commit the mistake of mothering your husband, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

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You feel that as a loving wife you should be more of a mother to your husband. \u00a0So, you protect and shield him from all family problems.<\/p>\n

In the bargain, you become so pampering that you make your husband irresponsible and undependable.<\/p>\n

Why are you wrong in being a mother to your husband?<\/p>\n

By mothering your husband, you literally make him careless, idle, and immature.<\/p>\n

It is true that being caring and loving as a mother is an emphatic of a good wife. But when you overdo the motherly part, you will definitely rue it in the future.<\/p>\n

If not now, years later you will face complications in your married life because your husband continuously demands being protected and pampered by you.<\/p>\n

When you are mothering your husband, you make these mistakes<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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• You are protective towards the faults of your husband.<\/li>\n
• You make the mistake of defending the faults of your husband.<\/li>\n
• You are always at the beck and call of your husband.<\/li>\n
• You let him off the hook in family issues.<\/li>\n
• You do not rectify the mistakes of your husband, as you do not want to hurt his feelings.<\/li>\n
• You protect your husband from family problems while he coolly hides behind your shoulders.<\/li>\n
• You do not allocate any family duties for your husband and he roams about without a worry in the world.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  “I am unable to cope up with family problems” Sundari, my close friend regretfully told me.<\/p>\n

  We had been thick friends during our college days. After my marriage, I lost touch with her for many years. She paid me a surprise visit after eighteen long years.<\/p>\n

  I was surprised to see my friend looking haggard and fatigued. She looked much older than her actual age. She had lost her usual bubbliness.<\/p>\n

  “Why do you look so tired and listless?” I asked her worryingly.<\/p>\n

  “It is because of my husband. I made the biggest blunder of my life when I mothered him” Sundari sighed with regret.<\/p>\n

  “Initially I felt happy that I was making the life of my husband comfortable by being a mother to him” Sundari continued.<\/p>\n

  “My husband has now taken full advantage of my motherly attitude. He has completely withdrawn himself away from his family duties. I handle our family’s financial issues all alone. I slog alone with household chores from early morning until late in the night. I now find it tiresome to handle the family with no support from my husband” she smiled sadly.<\/p>\n

  “My husband never bothers about our family issues. Whenever I seek his support, he casually tells me to handle it myself. I should have made my husband accountable towards the family from the early days of our marriage” my friend concluded wearily.<\/p>\n

  I felt sorry for my friend. She was a case of showing misguided display of love.<\/p>\n

  Mothering your husband is an alarming practice.<\/a><\/p>\n

  Your husband will never realize his commitments towards your family when you act as a mother to him.<\/p>\n

  When your husband behaves irresponsibily, the fault is entirely yours. Only you have made him unaware of his family duties by acting like a mother to him.<\/p>\n

  Your husband will be the ever small boy, watching movies\\playing video games while you slog with your never-ending family duties.<\/p>\n

  In the beginning, your husband feels loving when you fondly do all his personal work. But gradually his loving expectations become compulsive demands.<\/p>\n

  As years go by, your children are grown up. You have more household work to do. You struggle to balance between work and family.<\/p>\n

  But your mothered husband watches you without helping you.<\/p>\n

  Yes.<\/p>\n

  You are forced to shoulder the total family problems on your already sagging shoulders. Inwardly you feel overwhelmed by your lone battle for your family well being.<\/p>\n

  You long for some help from your pampered husband.<\/a><\/p>\n

  But he will never come forward to share your problems as he is now used to your motherly protection.<\/p>\n

  You become overloaded by duties which in fact should be the shared commitment of your husband.<\/p>\n

  You are doing it all wrong. You are in fact throwing your life into an abyss of overload of never ending family commitments.<\/p>\n

  Love your husband, intensely and ardently. But not at the cost of your mental peace and physical tiredness. When you are mothering your husband, he escapes from family duties.<\/p>\n

  Your husband should share your difficulties. He should be assertive and confident. He should shoulder your family burden equally.<\/p>\n

  Does this mean you should avoid mothering your husband?<\/p>\n

  No.<\/p>\n

  It is not like that.<\/p>\n

  You can be a mother to your husband \u00a0– As\u00a0a mother who molds him. One who supports him. One who makes him understand his duties. One who motivates him.<\/p>\n

  Never make these mistakes by mothering your husband<\/h3>\n

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  • Never be a minion to your husband.<\/li>\n
  • Never protect him from his mistakes.<\/li>\n
  • Never shoulder all the family issues by yourself.<\/li>\n
  • Never make your husband a lifelong burden by being at his disposal, 24\\7.<\/li>\n
  • Never be the sycophant of your husband.<\/li>\n
  • Make him understand his family duties.<\/li>\n
  • Make your husband accountable to share all your family problems.<\/li>\n
  • Make your husband be equally responsible and committed.<\/li>\n
  • He should give you instant emotional back up when you need it most.<\/li>\n
  • He should be supporting when you are stressed and tensed.<\/li>\n
  • Your husband cannot be commanding and demanding like a child.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Do you know a man easily finds his comfort zone when his wife supports his faults?<\/p>\n

    So, stop mothering your husband. Instead, be more of his reliable adviser.<\/a><\/p>\n

    Conclusion about mothering your husband<\/h4>\n

    A self-confident wife makes her husband responsible and answerable.<\/p>\n

    A pampering mother-like-wife makes her husband immature and negligent.<\/p>\n

    Do you want to be a confident wife who expects equal contribution from your husband?<\/p>\n

    Or<\/p>\n

    Do you want to be a mother to your husband and convert him into a spoilt brat?<\/p>\n

    The choice is entirely yours.<\/p>\n

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