{"id":6019,"date":"2018-08-27T19:46:37","date_gmt":"2018-08-28T00:46:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/?p=6019"},"modified":"2018-08-27T19:48:47","modified_gmt":"2018-08-28T00:48:47","slug":"teasing-your-spouse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/teasing-your-spouse\/","title":{"rendered":"When does teasing your spouse become an insult?"},"content":{"rendered":"

You feel teasing your spouse is the most natural thing in your relationship, don’t you?<\/p>\n

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“He\\she is my spouse. There is nothing wrong in certain amount of leg pulling. It adds spice to our interaction. If there was no teasing between us, everything about our relationship will become stale and boring\u2019 you tell yourself.<\/p>\n

What you feel is quite true also.<\/p>\n

You face many work related stress. You have many family\u00a0 issues lined up. So, you are always keyed up with tension and stress. You feel teasing your spouse will bring in the much-needed relaxation to your relationship.<\/p>\n

So, teasing your spouse is fun, provided it stays within the limits of decency.<\/a><\/p>\n

“Lilliput” I smiled happily when I heard my husband call out to me. It was his way of teasing me for my short stature. I always enjoyed him calling by this nickname. My\u00a0 husband always called me “lilliput” when he felt very loving towards me.<\/p>\n

It always made me feel relaxed and happy.<\/p>\n

Yes!<\/p>\n

Teasing is a very breezy way of interaction in married life.<\/p>\n

You do enjoy it when your spouse teases you, don’t you?<\/p>\n

You too call your spouse by nicknames based on his\\her behavior\\looks. You feel it is pure fun.<\/p>\n

But there are times when your teasing takes an ugly turn and becomes the reason for hot words flying between you.<\/p>\n

What could be the reason for such an innocent interaction becoming a battlefield of bitter words between you?<\/p>\n

Sadly, most of you never tease your spouse in the right sporting manner.\u00a0When your tone is biting and wounding, your spouse does not like your teasing. Teasing your spouse most often becomes a tool to vent your frustration. You indirectly show your animosity towards him\\her by making seemingly harmless remarks.<\/p>\n

Behind your seemingly harmless teasing, there lies a hidden hostility towards your spouse.<\/p>\n

And inevitably, your spouse sees through you.<\/p>\n

The experience of Sureka.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2018I felt like kicking my husband when he made fun of my cooking before his friends\u2019 Sureka, my friend looked frustrated.<\/p>\n

\u2018What did Ram say\u2019? I asked her curiously.<\/p>\n

\u2018Well, my husband invited his friends for dinner. I made many dishes painstakingly. His friends appreciated my cooking. I felt very happy and a wee bit proud of my cooking talent. But, my husband made all the wrong comments\u2019, Sureka looked indignant.<\/p>\n

“Did you buy the dishes in the restaurant? You usually don\u2019t cook this well. I should know, you know. I unluckily have to endure your cooking” my husband thought he was being funny. I didn\u2019t feel so for a minute.<\/p>\n

“He was blatantly insulting me right before his friends” my friend fumed about her husband.<\/p>\n

Yes.<\/p>\n

Sureka was right in feeling that her husband teased her the wrong way- the insulting way.<\/p>\n

Your husband sometimes takes the teasing part too far. In his efforts to show off before his friends\\relatives, he often puts his foot in his mouth. You literally fume in anger.<\/p>\n

Your wife sometimes makes fun of your upbringing right in front of your relatives\\friends leaving you seething in helpless anger.<\/p>\n

When does teasing your spouse get too far?<\/h2>\n

When you make fun of the appearance of your spouse, he\\she never likes it. You never realize it is a very sensitive topic with him\\her. When you persistently tease your spouse about his\\her appearance he\\she feels you think him\\her as very unattractive to you.<\/p>\n

You also tease your spouse about the way he\\she does her work, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Your teasing is now wrong.<\/p>\n

It is a direct attack on the individuality of your spouse. It makes his\\her hackles rise when you take a dig at his\\her personal habits. Your spouse feels he\\she has all the rights in the world to do things his\\her way and that you have no right to make fun of it.<\/p>\n

When your tease your spouse before his\\her friends, even your most innocuous comments makes him\\her wild with anger.<\/a><\/p>\n

When you tease your spouse about his\\he ability, he\\she retaliates about yours. Your spouse feels your teasing degrades him\\her.<\/p>\n

How to avoid teasing your spouse which makes him\\her feel insulted?<\/h3>\n
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  1. Avoid teasing your spouse about things he\\she is sensitive about. Mostly topics related to his\\her appearance, his\\her ability and his\\her success provoke your spouse if you tease him\\her about it.<\/li>\n
  2. Watch out for the mood of your spouse while teasing him\\her. Teasing him\\her when he\\she is off mood is a big no. it instigates bitter fight between you.<\/li>\n
  3. Making fun of the upbringing of your spouse can make you fight for days. Avoid it at any cost.<\/li>\n
  4. Don\u2019t get carried away when you are with others. Most of you take your friends\\relatives as an armor to say things you dare not say when you are alone with your spouse. You pour out your hoarded feelings against your spouse as teasing, when you are with others. He\\she cannot retaliate against you, you feel.<\/li>\n
  5. Never make fun of his\\her family. It is a very sensitive topic which immediately ends in bitter fights between you.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    CONCLUSION<\/h4>\n

    “Listen, you only tease the ones you love.”\u00a0 \u2013 John Boehner<\/em> <\/strong><\/p>\n

    Does this mean you cannot tease your spouse?<\/p>\n

    Marriage without teasing is dull and boring. But it should be done in the right spirit. To liven up your relationship and not to doom your marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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