These are the reasons you feel completely isolated from her.<\/p>\n

How did a mother-in-law became a dominating force in the family?<\/h3>\n

Long, long ago, it was man who earned for the family. The woman stayed back to look after her family. She had no worldly exposure. She never had a mind of her own.<\/p>\n

After marriage, the newly married girl naturally came directly under the control of her mother-in-law who ruled the family with an iron hand.<\/p>\n

But now times have changed.\u00a0As a modern woman, you have become very assertive and confident. You are financially independent. You would never be slavish like your yester generation sisters. You want your due. You want your personal space with your husband intact.<\/p>\n

Trying to shut you in the cage of joint family makes you feel enraged and angry. This is the reason you cannot get along with your mother-in-law.<\/p>\n

You have unnecessary arguments with your husband about your lack of independence. You want to live your married life independently, which is impossible with your mother-in-law around.<\/p>\n

You cannot bring up your children, as you desire when your mother-in-law keeps giving you old fashioned advice about child upbringing. You fume within yourself in helpless anger and irritation.<\/p>\n

You feel that joint family denies you your rights of living your married life as you like to.<\/p>\n

Joint family is a beautiful concept, but only when it is lived in the proper way. In this modern age, no one has the patience to adjust with other members of the family. And patience and tolerance are two key ingredients joint family needs.<\/p>\n

Blunders of your husband<\/h3>\n

Your husband commits the worst blunder of his life when he tries to get the best of both worlds. As a dutiful son who looks after his parents and a loving husband who dotes on his wife, he vacillates in confusion between you and his mother.<\/p>\n

He never realizes that it can never happen!<\/p>\n

How can he expect two winners for the first spot?<\/p>\n

Yes!<\/p>\n

Your husband should realize the hardcore reality that his first duty is to you and your children. You are the one who is going to be with him in all ups and downs of his life and not his mother.<\/p>\n

Your husband should support his parents financially and psychologically, until the day they live. He should never make them financially deprived. But, he should also not thrust his parents on you.<\/p>\n

You have no business to intrude when your husband helps his parents. It is his duty. He is what he is today because of them. So, you should understand that he is duty bound to them.\u00a0He should help and support them.<\/p>\n

When you and your mother-in-law vie with each other to be the power in your husband\u2019s life, he is a helpless viewer of the tug of war between you and his mother.<\/p>\n

You cannot thrust your mother in law away from your life just like that. You owe her respect. You should be friendly with her. But sadly, this will never happen as long as you live in the same house.<\/p>\n

Your mother in law should realize that her self-respect and self- esteem is at stake when she lives with you.<\/p>\n

If your husband insists on joint family, you will eventually lock horns with your mother-in-law. He would never like it.<\/p>\n

So, what exactly should your husband do to make you overcome your fear for your mother-in-law?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

He should settle his parents in a separate place. Your mother-in-law should realize the blunt truth that her son is your husband and you have more rights over him than her. This does not in any way make her importance in your husband’s life lesser.<\/p>\n

When she\u00a0 lives away from you, you can easily overcome your fear for your mother-in-law. Living independently bring in many refreshing changes in your relationship with her. You no longer consider her as your enemy.<\/p>\n

You willingly show excellent hospitality when she visits you. You too have the liberty to live your married life as you dreamed of. This what most modern women crave for. And quite rightfully so!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Your fear for your mother-in-law makes you fight with your husband about her, doesn\u2019t it? You mostly find it impossible to get along with her. In fact, your relationship with her is always warring and confrontational. There are also times you have tremendous fear for your mother-in-law. Why do you have fear for your mother-in-law […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[1231],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n