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<\/p>\nIf you look at the common reasons for divorce, you will be amazed to see that most of them are easily avoidable.<\/p>\n
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The curse of modern marriages is that couples easily divorce for the most silliest of reasons.<\/p>\n
Did you ever think that you would divorce your spouse when you married him\\her?<\/p>\n
Of course not.<\/p>\n
When you marry your spouse, you are totally in love with him\\her. Everything about your relationship looks rosy and idealistic to you. You feel your marriage would last for an eternity.<\/p>\n
But sadly, this feeling of love for your spouse does not last for long.<\/p>\n
Soon after your marriage, many diversities develop between you. Instead of trying to overcome it, you make much ado about it.<\/p>\n
Differences of opinion between you immediately makes you feel that your marriage is a failure. And without hesitation, you want to divorce your spouse.<\/p>\n
How Sarah decided to divorce for silly reasons<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI am going to divorce my husband, aunty\u2019\u2019 these words of Sarah shocked me.<\/p>\n Hers was a love marriage. And in the initial days of her marriage, she always went gaga about her husband. That intense was her love for him.<\/p>\n \u201cWhat happened Sarah? You were so happy\u201d I asked the girl hesitatingly.<\/p>\n \u201cYes, aunty. Everything was fine initially. But, now I work in another company where the salary is twofold than my husband” Sarah went on.<\/p>\n “This was the starting point of problems between us. Since I am earning\u00a0 more, my husband expects me to bear the brunt of our family’s financial commitments. Naturally, I will have nothing to with it,\u201d Sarah looked angry.<\/p>\n \u201cHow can my husband expect me to part with all my money just because I earn more than him? I was very angry when he brought up the topic. I never agreed to it. This has created such resentment between us that we now argue for almost everything. Nowadays, we do not talk unless it is needed\u201d Sarah went on mechanically.<\/p>\n My heart felt heavy that Sarah was taking her marriage so lightly. She was considering divorce for a reason which needed just a mutual discussion between them.<\/p>\n \u201cIt is my hard-earned money aunty. I cannot give it away just because my husband earns less than me\u201d she coolly went on.<\/p>\n Yes!<\/p>\n This is the sorry state of affairs of modern marriages.<\/p>\n The common reasons for divorce you cite does not warrant a separation from you. All it needs is a wee bit of adjustments from you.<\/p>\n You need money for the betterment of your family. But, most of you fight like cats and dogs about money.<\/p>\n In most marriages, couples do not have a unified thought about dealing with money.<\/p>\n While one is a spender, the other is prone to save. In fact, this diversified thought about handling money is good for your family.<\/p>\n If both are spenders, the financial future of your family will be in shambles.<\/p>\n If both like saving money and do not spend a dime, you will be missing many good things in life.<\/p>\n So, when there is diversity in dealing with money, you can have the best of both worlds.<\/p>\n But when you take this diversity as a pointer to your miserable marriage, you will only argue and fight with your spouse about money. And that too often.<\/p>\n When you like spending, you feel your spouse is ruining your enjoyment by holding on to money.<\/p>\n And if you like saving, you feel that your spouse is ruining the financial security of your family by spending at will.<\/p>\n And if you earn more than your spouse, it instigates bitter argument about the sharing of family\u2019s financial commitments.<\/p>\n Extra marital affairs were rare and far between during yester years. And cheating was always associated with men.<\/p>\n It is no longer so.<\/p>\n Nowadays, women cheat as good as men do.<\/a><\/p>\n What could be the reason behind extra marital affairs?<\/p>\n Mostly it is physical. When you are physically attracted to the opposite sex, you easily jump over the fence, forgetting the damage it does to your marriage.<\/p>\n When you do not feel emotionally supported by your spouse, you feel lost and lonely in your relationship. When another person offers you the emotional support you drastically need, you indulge in extra marital affair.<\/p>\n Extra marital affair is the topmost among the common reasons for divorce.<\/p>\n When both abuse each other verbally or physically, your marriage invariably ends in divorce.<\/p>\n Words have the power of a sword. It can literally tear your relationship into shreds.<\/p>\n When your spouse unthinkingly utter words which hurt you, you become resentful and bitter towards him\\her.<\/p>\n Physical abuse also destroys the nicety of your marriage. When your spouse hurts your body, the pain you feel is reflected in your mind also.<\/p>\n Continued physical and verbal abuse, inevitably drives you to the divorce court.<\/p>\n Physical attraction can never create love between you. But it creates volumes of attraction towards each other.<\/p>\n When your spouse is constantly shabby and grimy, you lose your attraction for him\\her. When the personal hygiene of your spouse is bad, you feel repulsed to be physically near him\\her.<\/p>\n Physical attraction makes you feel sexually interested in your spouse. Sexual interest in each other is very important for your marriage to last.<\/p>\n Lack of sexual interest is also one of the common reasons for divorce.<\/a><\/p>\n Most of you put your best foot forward when you are in love. During your dating days, your spouse shows only his\\her best side to you.<\/p>\n This makes you build rosy dreams about your spouse. You dreamily assume that the loving and adjustable attitude of your spouse will continue throughout your married life.<\/p>\n But surprisingly after marriage, there are many changes in the behavior of your spouse. Your spouse is not as loving and caring as you thought him\\her to be.<\/p>\n You find many qualities about your spouse which you do not like.<\/p>\n You eventually become disillusioned with your spouse and want to end your marriage.<\/p>\n When in love you incessantly communicated with your spouse. You had so much to talk to him\\her.<\/p>\n But after a few years of marriage, you seem to have nothing to talk to your spouse.<\/p>\n If at all you communicate with your spouse, it is invariably about some innocuous family issues which ends in bitter fights between you.<\/p>\n Both utter degrading words with the deliberate intention of hurting each other.<\/p>\n Both search for topics to talk. And after a period of time, both stop communicating with each other.<\/p>\n Lack of communication is one of the most avoidable of the common reasons for divorce.<\/p>\n It is true that love knows no social status.<\/p>\n So, when in love you scarcely notice the vast differences in the social status between you.<\/p>\n But it becomes a common cause for divorce after a few years. If you are from a rich family, you find it impossible to adjust to the middle class lifestyle of your not-so-rich spouse.<\/p>\n You convert the differences between your social status into a big issue, which eventually leads to divorce.<\/p>\n Marriage needs maturity to handle it with all its problems and issues. But if you marry too young, you are mentally immature.<\/p>\n You are unable to accept the commitments thrust on you. You do not have the patience to tolerate the minor faults of your spouse.<\/p>\nShall we have a peep into the most common reasons for divorce?<\/h2>\n
1. Money is one of the top reason<\/strong><\/h3>\n
2. Extra marital affairs<\/strong><\/h3>\n
3. Physical and verbal abuse<\/strong><\/h3>\n
4. Lack of attraction<\/strong><\/h3>\n
5. Idealistic expectations<\/strong><\/h3>\n
6. You cease to communicate<\/strong><\/h3>\n
7. Too much of differences in status<\/strong><\/h3>\n
8. Immature mindset<\/strong><\/h3>\n