Shall we now have an elaborate look at the secrets you never share with your spouse?<\/h2>\n

1. You hide your savings<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You never feel that the money you earn is our<\/strong> money.<\/strong> You always feel it is my<\/strong> money<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

You earn a lot and enjoy great financial freedom never imagined some twenty years ago.<\/p>\n

But, you do not want to tell your spouse about the money you earn as you feel he\\she will fleece you in the name of family\u2019s financial commitments.<\/p>\n

You think that your spouse will take advantage of you if he\\she knows about your real salary. And so you turn secretive about your income. You are not frank with your spouse about the money you earn, the increment you get and also about your yearly incentive.<\/p>\n

Your spouse fumes and frets about your real financial status. He\\she does not have the courage to ask you.<\/p>\n

This is where personal money comes into good stead.<\/p>\n

When you have personal money to indulge in your individual wishes and desires, you never feel like hiding your real income from your spouse.<\/p>\n

This is the reason setting aside certain percentage of your earnings for yourself is of prime importance.<\/p>\n

2. Love failure<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Your past love life is the topmost of the secrets you never share with your spouse as you feel it might intrude into the happiness of your married life.<\/p>\n

You are apprehensive that your spouse will become suspicious of you if you confide to him\\her about your past love affair.<\/p>\n

You are right in feeling so.<\/p>\n

When you have come out of your love failure and when you have no connections with your ex, there is nothing wrong if you hide it from your spouse. You can avoid unnecessary arguments and fights such confessions often create.<\/p>\n

3. Your abusive childhood<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Did you have an abusive childhood wherein you had to undergo verbal and physical abuse from your parents\\relatives?<\/p>\n

When you are a by-product of a broken marriage, your childhood is unsure and insecure. If your parents were addicted to drugs and alcohol, your childhood is downright abusive and tragic.<\/p>\n

When there is no love between your parents, your childhood is torn to shreds by the emotionally shattering experiences you face in your young age. It often leaves you dazed with agony.<\/p>\n

You feel your spouse will think low about you if he\\she comes to know about it. So, you make your childhood your secret, as you do not him\\her to know about your humiliating past. When you are unsure of the support of your spouse, you do not want to confess about it to him\\her.<\/p>\n

4. Your loans and debts<\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u2018My world came crashing to my feet when I knew that my husband had taken a loan mortgaging our house. He never confided about it to me. When I confronted my husband about it, he is saying he wanted the money for his business\u201d my friend looked very unhappy about the secretive way her husband had made her family plunge into irrevocable debt.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe do not have the money to repay the loan. The loan sharks are now pressurizing us to repay the money. We have no other go than to sell our house. My husband should have told me before pledging our house\u201d my friend shuddered with tensed agony.<\/p>\n

\u201cI feel terrible by the very thought that we are going to sell our house\u201d she cried.<\/p>\n

When you take such a major decision, you should discuss it with your spouse as it can have far-reaching negative impact in your marriage. Money is the main cause for divorce in modern marriages.<\/p>\n

5. Friendship with the opposite sex<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When you have real good friendship with the opposite sex you never feel like hiding it from your spouse. You introduce your friend to your spouse, as you have nothing to hide. Your spouse also has no reservations about your friendship.<\/p>\n

Do you know you hide your friendship with the opposite sex only when there in dishonest attraction involved?<\/p>\n

What you are doing could ruin your marriage.<\/p>\n

Why do you want to continue in a friendship when could destroy your relationship?<\/p>\n

It is always better to have a border line while interacting with the opposite sex.<\/p>\n

CONCLUSION<\/h4>\n

\u201cA lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.\u201d Dalai Lama<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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It is true you are individual with rights to secrecy. But your secrecy should not be sneaky and sly to make your spouse wary and suspicious. It is all fine when you hide certain incidents in your life if you feel it might affect your marriage.<\/p>\n

But to leave your spouse in complete darkness about everything in your life makes your relationship full of doubts and misgivings.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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