{"id":6678,"date":"2018-12-11T11:55:40","date_gmt":"2018-12-11T17:55:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/?p=6678"},"modified":"2018-12-11T11:59:58","modified_gmt":"2018-12-11T17:59:58","slug":"role-of-a-father-overlooked","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.breezystorm.com\/role-of-a-father-overlooked\/","title":{"rendered":"Why is your role of a father overlooked by your adult children?"},"content":{"rendered":"

You always feel that your role of a father is overlooked by your adult children, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

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You are confused why the role of your wife as a mother is highly appreciated by your grown up children.<\/p>\n

But, there is hardly a whisper about your role of a father.<\/p>\n

In fact, you are often criticized for being unloving, irresponsible and wooden with your adult children. Your children do love you even as they grow up, but they rush to your wife for their emotional needs. They often never confide in you as they do with your wife.<\/p>\n

You are often frustrated when your children never give you as much importance as they do to your wife.<\/p>\n

You are in fact a mere spectator to the bond between your wife and your children as they grow into adults, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Why does this happen to you in your family?<\/p>\n

There are some valid psychological reasons why your role of a father is not that appreciated by your adult children.<\/h2>\n

You fail to understand that the mentality of your children changes drastically as they grow up. Their transformation from childhood to adulthood takes you off-balance. Your children become questioning, demanding, and highly independent. They are no longer the kids who looked upon you for almost everything.<\/p>\n

Your male attitude finds it impossible to cope up with the growing emotional needs of your adult children. This is where your wife scores over you.<\/a><\/p>\n

As a woman, your wife has an uncanny knack of understanding the pulse of her children even when they become adults. So, she effortlessly strikes an emotional chord with them.<\/p>\n

This psychological understanding in the approach of your wife towards your adult children is an emphatic answer to your queries about your children ignoring you when they grow up.<\/p>\n

Do you know that the mentality of your wife towards your children is in exact contrast to you?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When your children are born, you feel emotionally secure, as you have now branched out as a family. You adore and cherish your children.<\/p>\n

But, you have a world of your own. Your family too sometimes do not have a place in it. You can spend tons of your time without your family. You are in home, but not exactly with your family.<\/p>\n

Are you confused at the insinuation for your role of a father?<\/p>\n

Analyze your day-to-day interaction with your children!<\/p>\n

Your interaction with your children is very spontaneous and full of fun. But sadly, it is very brief. You do not have the patience or the energy to spend too much of fun time with them. And your children direly needs playful time with you to feel loved and cared.<\/p>\n

After your brief loving moments with your children, you plumb yourself before the television\\internet\\video games.<\/p>\n

Often your concentration is on your work, your hobbies, and your entertainment. This does not mean you do not love your children. Of course, you love them. You slave for their betterment. But you fail to carry the message of your love to your children.<\/p>\n

This is where your wife triumphs over you.<\/a><\/p>\n

She can spend tons of time with your children without feeling bored. She forgoes her tiredness to spend quality time with them.<\/p>\n

Your wife exists and lives for you and your children. And she knows the trick to make her love for her children conveyed to them without an iota of doubt.<\/p>\n

Unlike you, she finds it easy to be focused on her family. She effortlessly sacrifices many of her wishes for the sake of your children. This is something you can never do.<\/p>\n

It is a hardcore fact that your family is a part of your life and not your entire life. To your wife, her family is her entire life. So, it is only natural that your wife edges you out as being the pillar of strength of your children.<\/p>\n

When your children are young, they cling to you for all their small wishes. Your wife takes a backseat in their life as they feel their mother is too controlling and advising. You are their joy and fun. You are their hero. They look upon you for their entertainment. They feel you are funny and humorous.<\/p>\n

But as your children grow, they deviate from you and look upon your wife for everything. Your children shirk from interacting with you and spend most of their time with your wife.<\/p>\n

You are taken aback by this volte face, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

You just cannot take in the fact that your children who thought you were a hero now feel you are a villain in their life. In their adulthood, your wife takes the driver seat while you have to take the back seat in their life.<\/p>\n

Why did your children looked upon you as a hero when they are young?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When your children are young, their needs are focused towards enjoyment and fun. They want to have all the fun in life. And you are the person they look towards for fulfilling their childish cravings.<\/p>\n

Your wife is always worried about the future of the family and so she is more inclined on saving money rather than on spending it.<\/p>\n

It is here you step in as an indulgent father. You as a man is very practical and think that any problem should be faced as and when it crops up.<\/p>\n

So, you are more than ready to cater to the childish needs of your children. And your wallet remains open to their childish needs. You do not think of the cost of the things your children want. All you want is the happiness it gives them.<\/p>\n

When you go for shopping, your children tend to ask unwanted things which catches their fancy. Your wife becomes a stern mother advising them about the cost of what they want. She argues with you that there are many essential financial commitments to be met in the family.<\/p>\n

But you brush her aside and buy whatever your children ask you. Naturally, your children feel that you are a hero who gets them everything they crave for. You feel egoistic on being the heroic father of your children.<\/p>\n

How you fail as a father as your children grow into adults?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You are in for a shock as your children grow up. They do not spend much time with you. They like to spend their time with your wife.<\/a><\/p>\n

Why does this changeover happen with your children?<\/p>\n

When your children enter adulthood, their craving is not for enjoyment but for emotional understanding. This is when your wife enters into their life as a friend who can understand them from their point of view.<\/p>\n

Your children feel you do not understand their emotional needs as well as your wife does. They are right in a certain way. Your practical mind cannot understand the inner cravings of your children, where as your wife can literally visualize almost all their needs.<\/p>\n

Your wife as a mother makes them feel that they have someone on whom they can lean on. Your too practical approach does not go well with your adult children.<\/p>\n

Yes!<\/p>\n

You are not able to cope up with the ever-changing emotions of your children.<\/p>\n

But inwardly you are shattered inside that your children do not love you anymore, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

You are wrong!<\/p>\n

It is not that your children have out grown you. When you do not understand their changed needs, they turn towards your wife who makes them feel understood and cared.<\/p>\n

This is the topmost reason why the gap between you and your children widens.<\/p>\n

Conclusion <\/strong><\/h4>\n

\u201cMy father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.\u201d – Jim Valvano<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Your role of a father can never be overlooked. If your wife is the pillar of strength of your family; you are the balancing figure of the family. Your family cannot be run on emotions alone. It needs practicality and rationality. It is you who can be that.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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