Such radical changes in your attitude towards your spouse, isn\u2019t\nit?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do you change so much towards the person you fervently\nloved and cherished? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Has your love lost its fire and verve? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You do love your spouse. But you do not display it, as fervently as you did before your marriage. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What has changed in your relationship to bring this drastic\nchange in your attitude towards your spouse? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You married your spouse out of intense love, didn\u2019t you? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, why have you outgrown each other so quickly after marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The answer is very simple. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your love for your spouse, has not diminished in any way. But you are bewildered, confused, and panicky about the intursion into your individuality, the lifestyle changes after your marriage brings about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What are the other\nlifestyle changes you undergo after marriage?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Your carefree life\nis gone forever<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before marriage, you lived a carefree life. You did not have\ntoo much of commitments or responsibilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But after marriage, you have tons of responsibilities thrust\non you.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. You can no longer\nspend fun times with your friends<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse intrudes into your time with your friends also. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if your spouse does not like your friends, you have no other go than to sever your friendship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inwardly, you fume with frustration and resentment about the lifestyle changes you are forced to undergo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Your spending is\nquestioned<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before your marriage, you spent your money on things you\nfancied. But after marriage, your spouse questions you about your spending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse cites family commitments and responsibilities, and bombards you about being reckless in throwing away your money. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. You have to adjust\nto things you do not like<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know that if you want your marriage to work, you muust make many adjustments. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are times when you change your way of dressing also,\njust to please your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You no longer can watch your favorite shows, as the remote is with your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse also takes control of your hard-earned money. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are just few of the adjustments you make, after your marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inwardly, you are displeased and upset about the changes you undergo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. You are consistently\nadvised and preached<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many a time, your spouse treats you like a nitwit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse keeps giving you advice, as if you knew nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse also makes rude comments about your way of doing your work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse compares you with others, while you fume at his\\her audacity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conclusion <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars\nthat each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back\nangry words.\u201d \u2013Elizabeth Gilbert.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can you see how many lifestyle changes you undergo after marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And these lifestyle changes you undergo after marriage, is not what you expected. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is a hard core fact that after the initial flush of your love wears off, your spouse throws away the mask of goodness he\\she wore before marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is as though, your spouse has assumed a new role. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You wonder where your spouse hid his\\her anger, snobbery,\nruthlessness, carelessness, and uncaring attitude when you were in love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel as though you had married a stranger, who is unknown to you and whose behavior knocks you down in beaten despair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who is wrong in changing colors, after marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is it you, or your spouse? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The fault sadly lies with both of you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you were in love, you build a fairy tale married life about your spouse, where you will be the queen\\king of his\\her life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But your castles come crashing to naught within a few months after marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you become frustrated and irritated with the changed face of your spouse, you feel cheated and betrayed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, you must accept these lifestyle changes as part and parcel of your marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is the only way to save your relationship from crumbling into abject disappointment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Subscribe to “Marriage Realities” to understand your marriage in a new light. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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