Your parents can do none of this.<\/p>\n

Then why is it most parents do not understand this common mistake they keep on making?<\/p>\n

“How dare your husband say those words to you? Are you so thick skinned that you tolerated his words?” the shrill voice of my neighbor carried through to me.<\/p>\n

“He said those words in a flash of anger. He did not actually mean it”I heard Anita, her daughter retorting back.<\/p>\n

“If you allow your husband to control you, you are going to suffer. Listen to me. Don\u2019t go back to him. You stay here. Let him come and apologize to you. Then might be you can think of living with him” my neighbor was ferociously instigating her daughter against her husband.<\/p>\n

Anita came to see me the next day.\u00a0Her eyes were puffy with continued crying.<\/p>\n

“What happened, Anita?” I asked the young girl worryingly.<\/p>\n

“Aunty, I had an argument with my husband yesterday. We exchanged lot of hot words. But our argument was the result of a tension situation we were facing” she said sadly.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t say a word. I knew that such arguments were part and parcel of any marriage relationship.<\/p>\n

“I should have made it up with my husband, but I was so angry with him that I complained about him to my mother. Now she is making it a big issue by not allowing me to go home. She insists my husband apologize to me. He will never do it because both were in the fault. I just do not know what to do” Anita sobbed.<\/p>\n

Was Anita’s mother right in intruding into the personal life of her daughter?<\/p>\n

She was not.<\/p>\n

Instead of advising her daughter, she was being interfering and intruding. She was advising wrongly and needlessly<\/p>\n

Anita’s mother is one among the many parents who do not know their limits in interfering into the relationship problems of their children.<\/p>\n

Why do parents interfere, intrude and encroach into the personal life oef their children?<\/a><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t they understand that their children are mature enough to deal with their relationship problems?<\/p>\n

What happens when parents interfere in the married life of their children?<\/h2>\n

They destroy it<\/p>\n

Do you know parents are also a main reason for the spurt of divorce among couples?<\/p>\n

Are you taken aback?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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• Parents are almost always prejudiced and one sided.<\/li>\n
• They give wrong advice to you against your spouse.<\/li>\n
• Parents exaggerate the minor mistakes of your spouse.<\/li>\n
• They don\u2019t understand that they are exceeding their limits.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  “Nowadays parents are very selfish. They are also very self-centered. They hold on to their children and do not let them live their lives” an advocate friend of mine told me.<\/p>\n

  “Some couples tend to listen to the wrong advice given by their parents and separate from their spouse. It feels bad to see couples listening to a third person to decide the future of their relationship” she continued sadly.<\/p>\n

  She had a valid point there.<\/p>\n

  Your parents too are a third person as far as your relationship with your spouse is concerned.<\/a><\/p>\n

  You can ask them advice for some major family issues,but the final decision should always be yours.<\/p>\n

  You know your relationship problems better than your parents, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

  It is true that without your parents you wouldn\u2019t be what you are now. You owe them your success and stature in society. You should respect and consult your parents in all important decisions of your life.<\/p>\n

  But your relationship with your spouse and its related issues are all your own very personal problems. Your parents can have no say in it.<\/p>\n

  If you allow your parents to dictate terms and conditions in your relationship, it creates innumerable misunderstanding with your spouse.<\/p>\n

  Parents always see your relationship problems from your viewpoint. They invariably point accusing fingers at your spouse.<\/p>\n

  Your spouse never likes it. In fact he\\she resents it.<\/p>\n

  They fail to understand that they should take a step back from your life after your marriage.<\/p>\n

  Your parents should also realize that your spouse is there to take care of you.<\/p>\n

  Here are 7 needless mistakes your parents make<\/a><\/p>\n

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  • Your parents are emotionally insecure that they might lose your love.<\/li>\n
  • They often overstay your hospitality.<\/li>\n
  • Your parents also give you wrong advice about your in-laws.<\/li>\n
  • They intrude into your personal interaction with your spouse.<\/li>\n
  • Parents also make you feel guilty that you do not care for them.<\/li>\n
  • Your parents hear only your viewpoint.<\/li>\n
  • To them you are always right and your spouse is always wrong.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    These blunders your parents make sometimes destroys your marriage.<\/p>\n

    Are you from a rich family and your spouse from a lower status?<\/p>\n

    This is enough for your parents to make unwarranted comments about your luxurious life before marriage and your mediocre life after marriage.<\/p>\n

    Your spouse is naturally resentful and angry against \u00a0your parents.<\/p>\n

    Are you are more professionally successful than your spouse?<\/p>\n

    Your parents make demeaning comments about how your spouse is no match to your ability.<\/p>\n

    This is is not all.<\/p>\n

    They also make yet another mistake.<\/p>\n

    They often visit your home.<\/p>\n

    You are after all their dear child, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

    Nothing wrong in it.<\/p>\n

    But they overstay their hospitality which makes your spouse feel his\\her privacy intruded upon. Their eyes follow you around spying what is going on between you and your spouse.<\/p>\n

    The mistake often lies with you.<\/p>\n

    You take your relationship problems to your parents. And they barge in to argue with your spouse in your defense. There is no need to say that your spouse gets wild with anger at your unthinking behavior.<\/p>\n

    When you communicate with your spouse about your problems it is very easy to overcome it.<\/p>\n

    Your parents do not interfere with the intention of ruining your marriage. They feel emotionally insecure when you deviate from them to lead your own life. They become\u00a0 a wee bit jealous of the person who now holds your total attention.<\/p>\n

    What should your parents do?<\/h3>\n

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    • Your parents should realize that you have a family of your own.<\/li>\n
    • They should know that \u00a0you cannot spend as much time with them as before.<\/li>\n
    • Your parents should acknowledge the fact you have a more important role to play. The role of a husband\\wife.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      What should you do to prevent interference of your parents?<\/h3>\n

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      • Resolve the problems with your spouse between yourself.<\/li>\n
      • Never go to your parents with a complaint list against your spouse.<\/li>\n
      • Do not keep asking them advice.<\/li>\n
      • Set your boundary lines.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        Conclusion\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

        \u2018The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder.\u2019 \u2013 Jim Morrison<\/strong><\/p>\n

        Does this mean parents are redundant in your life?<\/p>\n

        Of course not.<\/p>\n

        They mean a lot to you.<\/p>\n

        But they should not cling to you for emotional support.<\/p>\n

        They should let you lead your life. They should be neutral. They should treat your spouse as their son\\daughter. They should not be prejudiced against your spouse.<\/p>\n

        They must know their limits.<\/p>\n

        Your parents will be loved and cherished by you when they step back and let you enjoy your married life.<\/p>\n

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