Living in a gaslighting relationship can be traumatic and nightmarish, to say the least.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It is because you feel happy in your married life, only when your spouse cherishes and treasures you. <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You long that your spouse protects and supports in you, in your low times. You also want your spouse to adjust and adapt to your minor faults.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all your dreams of a happy marriage are dashed to the ground, when you are living in a gaslighting relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are constantly abused and misused by your spouse, in your abusive relationship. You feel emotionally devastated, when your spouse indulges in all sort of manipulative tactics of psychologically destroying you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse is so intelligent and smart, that he or she does not openly display his or her abusive traits. The gaslighting behavior of your spouse is so subtle and underplayed, that other people do not see through him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is the reason, you are often termed as a culprit behind all your relationship issues, by other people. The gaslighting behavior of your spouse makes you feel controlled, emotionally abused, just living with him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse often makes you doubt your own sanity, by doing everything possible to make you feel confused about the status of your marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shall we now look at the 10 traumatic signs showing that you are living in a gaslighting relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 1 sign of your gaslighting relationship is manipulative lies<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In your gaslighting relationship, your spouse is a blatant liar. Your spouse reels out many lies about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The lies of your spouse are to make you seem as the reason behind all the issues in your relationship. Your spouse speaks ill about you to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not in an aggressive way. But in a pathetic way by putting on a mask of a victim. The lies of your spouse are so smooth, that even your friends or relatives believe him or her. Even with you, your spouse keeps repeating that you do many wrong things that is destroying your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The repetitive lies of your spouse makes you so confused that you often question yourself.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am I the one who is committing all the mistakes my spouse is accusing me of?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the whole, your spouse does everything to make you unhappy and miserable. But you cannot question him or her. Because your spouse will go all out to prove you are imagining many things he or she never did. Your spouse will sound so convincing, that it makes you doubt yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 2. sign of a gaslighting relationship is being blaming<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse could do no wrong in your gaslighting relationship. Whatever issues that crop up in your relationship, has you as the reason behind it. The financial mess your family is facing is because of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though you well know that it was your spouse who is behind the financial downfall of your family, you can do nothing about it. Even if you point it out to your spouse, he or she would never agree to it. Whenever there are arguments between you, your spouse blames you as the reason behind it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The work-related problems your spouse faces are blamed as due to the pressures you give him or her. Your manipulative spouse holds himself or herself away from responsibilities. But acts as though he or she is the one doing all family duties, while you do nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 3. sign of a gaslighting relationship is spreading rumors about you<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In your gaslighting relationship, your spouse is adept in spreading mean rumors about you. Your spouse tells your family, that you are abusing him or her. Your spouse tells his family, how much he or she is suffering because of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your character is often defamed by your spouse. <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your attitude will be questioned, so much so that you feel that you might be unknowingly making your spouse unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 4. sign of a gaslighting relationship is putting on a pretense of goodness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse is absolutely proficient in putting on a fa\u00e7ade of goodness. The goodness faked by your spouse, is often taken by others as his or her true character. To the outside people, your spouse oozes that much of goodness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse she acts as though he or she is doing everything to make your relationship work. And that it is you who is making him or her suffer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To people who do not know you, the words of your spouse is taken by its face value as a proof of your negative character.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 5. sign of a gaslighting relationship is making you feel guilty<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse makes you feel guilty by turning the tables on you. Your spouse says that you are making him or her unhappy by your behavior. He or she accuses of many things you have not done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse is adept in putting on a show of being the victim and you as the culprit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 6 sign of a gaslighting relationship is there is no concern for your emotions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You feel that your emotions are neglected by your uncaring spouse. When you voice out your concerns to your spouse, he or she scarcely listens to it. On the contrary, your spouse says that you are acting melodramatic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that you are imagining things that is not happening, well knowing that your worries are real.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 7 sign of a gaslighting relationship is you are not listened to<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you go to your spouse to talk to him or her, it is as though you are talking to a wall, for all the attention you get. Your spouse makes you feel bitter and resentful by looking all over the place, except at you when you are talking with him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse increases the volume of the TV, to make you go away. Or, your spouse gets up from the place and leaves you stunned at the insult meted out to you. You feel as though you do not exist for your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 8 sign of a gaslighting relationship is there is no apology<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse insults you in many ways. He or she utters demeaning words against you. The least you expect from your spouse is a word or two of apology.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But your spouse goes about as if nothing happened, even after having wounded you with unwarranted words and abusive behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 9 sign of a gaslighting relationship is wearing you down<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In your gaslighting relationship, you feel mentally drained and depleted. You try your best to make your spouse see reason behind your grievances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By staying unreceptive and uncaring to all your pleading, your spouse literally wears down your energy to fight. You are made to just let go, because you well know that your spouse will do nothing to make you feel loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 10 sign of a gaslighting relationship is the feeling of loneliness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though you are married, you feel as though you have no one to support you. Though your spouse is home, you do not feel his or her companionship because he or she treats you like a piece of furniture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you are a victim to this sort of a behavior by your spouse, it makes you feel unhappy in your relationship. You are at your wits end not knowing how to handle the gaslighting behavior of your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

CONCLUSION<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must definitely confront your spouse when he or she persistently abuses you. You must make him or her realize that your emotions cannot be tampered with. You cannot expect your spouse to change instantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But your persistent confrontation might make your spouse realize, that he or she cannot take you lightly. This itself is a small victory to you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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