\u201cThe anger of my husband is so ferocious that I often feel insulted by him\u201d Renu, my friend told me with sadness written all over her face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was naturally taken aback, as I had always assumed that she was enjoying a happy marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen my husband gets angry, he becomes so abusive that he tramples my self-respect by his hurting words. Nowadays, I have stopped talking to him, as I cannot take it any longer\u201d my friend sighed unhappily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI have started living for myself and my children. This has made my husband even angrier with me. But I cannot be bothered\u201d my friend looked grim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOur marriage survives only for the sake of our children\u201d tears of self-pity appeared in Renu\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can you see how the anger of her husband made my friend feel unhappy and miserable in her married life?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am sure, that my friend is not a lone case in suffering from the impact of anger in married life. Many couples undergo the same agony as my friend. The hurt you inflict on your spouse is so massive, that it creates unwanted distance between you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Continuous anger you display towards your spouse, makes him\\her drift away from you, in resentment and bitterness. It is because, your hot temperament makes it impossible for your spouse to enjoy being married to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your married life is an emotional and sensitive relationship. <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must be loving and caring towards your spouse, to make him\\her feel loved by you. Your behavior towards your spouse before your marriage is so loving, that he\\she has many dreams about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse imagines that you will always cherish and treasure him\\her, after marriage also. But when you thrash the dreams of your spouse by being demeaning and degrading, he\\she feels deeply hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse finds it easy to forgive you, when your anger is fleeting and temporary. But when your against your spouse is intentional and deliberate, he\\she does not want to continue his\\her relationship with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you know the common reason behind many failed marriages?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is uncontrolled anger. The impact of anger in your marriage is that much monumental, that it shreds your relationship into pieces.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is when dealing with anger in your marriage becomes all the more important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 1 reason why dealing with anger in your marriage is important is to avoid feeling ill-treated<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you vent your frustrations on your spouse, he\\she revolts against it. Your spouse becomes resentful against you, as he\\she feels that he\\she has done nothing wrong to warrant your needless anger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consistent display of anger by you makes your spouse feel, he\\she is being misused and ill-treated by you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unless you put a full stop to your anger, it makes the rift between you and your spouse, widen and deepen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 2 reason why dealing with anger in your marriage is important is to keep self-respect intact<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Though your spouse is married to you, you cannot do anything you like with him\\her. You must do nothing to degrade the self-respect of your spouse. When you trample the self-respect of your spouse through your hurting words, he\\she finds it impossible to forgive you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are times your spouse might retaliate back to your anger. There are times your spouse keeps silent, as he\\she does not want needless confrontation with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But your spouse does not forgive you. In fact, your spouse stores tons of resentment against you, for your uncalled-for display of anger against him\\her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 3 reason why dealing with anger in your marriage is important is to stop drifting away from your spouse<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your spouse is consistently exposed to your anger, his\\her respect for you diminishes. Your spouse easily forgives your occasional exhibition of anger, as he\\she feels you are after all very human to display your emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when your anger becomes frequent, your spouse feels bitter that he\\she is being taken for granted by you. Slowly but surely, your spouse starts to lose his\\her love for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The no 4 reason why dealing with anger in your marriage is important is to save your marriage<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The success of your marriage depends upon the quality time you spend together. But your persistent anger, makes your spouse deviate from you in resentment and bitterness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse feels hurt that you have made him\\her your punching bag, to vent all your frustrations and disappointments on him\\her. Your spouse no longer wants to spend time with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your spouse would rather spend his\\her time on his\\her own, away from you. This is a danger signal to your marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unless you make amendments to the bitterness your anger caused to your spouse, it might spell doom to your marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What are the practical solutions in dealing with anger in your marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 6 simple solutions !<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 1. Be empathetic<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Both should be empathetic towards each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When both are empathetic, you understand the feelings and emotions of each other much better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 2. Realize the repercussions of your anger<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Both will never show needless anger, if you know about its devastating impact in your relationship. Anger destroys the love you have for each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your relationship turns abusive and offensive. Both feel resentful against each other.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 3. Forgo expectations<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of you are angry against your spouse because of your crashed expectations. And mostly your spouse does not live up to your expectations, and he\\she does not live up to your expectations. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When expectations are not realized, both feel utterly disappointed about your relationship. The disappointments both suffer, only makes your married life unhappy to both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In unhappiness and frustration, both flare up with needless anger against each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, forgo expectations if you must forgo anger in your relationship. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 4. Talk it out<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do not keep your emotions bottled up. When you are unable to share your emotions with your spouse, you feel suffocated. So, always be open to share your feelings with your spouse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you do not like something which your spouse does, convey your feelings to him\\her. Pent up emotions inevitably end in volcanic display of anger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 5. Move away from the scene of anger<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you feel, that you are going to erupt with anger, you must move away from the scene.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Never stay in the scene of anger. If you do so, your anger becomes even more volatile. But when you move away from the place, your temper easily cools down to normalcy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No 6. Mind your words. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your words have the impact of a sword. It can tear your relationship into shreds. So, control the bitter words waiting to erupt from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are not going to gain anything by uttering bitter words against your spouse. Your spouse is not your enemy that you should go all out to display your anger against him\\her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

CONCLUSION<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, your anger against your spouse is acceptable only when it is reasonable and fleeting. Never let your anger become a frequent occurrence in your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you really understand its devastating effect, you will easily refrain from bursting out in unwanted anger.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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