You never really know that your wife feels unhappily married to you, do you?
You feel you are a perfect husband just because you earn lots of money.
“I provide for the family. I look after the needs of my wife. I am loyal to her. What more does she want?” as a man, you have this practical and rational mental attitude towards your wife.
You are wrong.
Providing for the family is not a criterion of a good husband. It is just an essential quality of a dutiful husband. Making your wife happy needs many other qualities from you.
But, you never know about it. You do many unwanted things without knowing that it makes your wife feel very unhappy with you.
What do you do when you are unhappy with your wife?
You become cold, bleak, and distant with your wife. You show your anger and frustration by stop talking with her.
But, as a woman, your wife is not made that way. She shows her anger and resentment against you in a very different manner.
When your wife feels unhappily married to you, she displays her frustration against you in
a way which leaves you baffled and confused.
Let us now see the ways your wife displays her unhappiness against you!
1. Your wife utters indirect words that show her displeasure about you
Your wife expresses her displeasure by indirectly showing her anger.
Your wife says, “Are you listening to me”?
That might the literal meaning.
But your wife has her suppressed anger stuffed into these seemingly innocuous words. What she actually means is that “you scarcely listen to me.”
When your wife says, “If you say so” to your suggestions, you feel she is approving all your ideas about the family.
You would be surprised to know that this is not the case.
What your wife exactly means when she says those words is “I know your suggestions are not good enough. But I am saying yes because I don’t want unnecessary confrontation with you”
Your wife says, “Can we talk now?”
You are taken aback when your wife utters these words to you as you assume that you are interacting with her daily. And you feel there is nothing new to talk to her.
No.
When your wife has had enough of indifference from you, she wants to make things clear with you.
She implies she is ready for a confrontation.
Your wife says “Do you think it is it a good idea?”
She indirectly implies that your suggestions are not worth consideration.
Can you see how your wife indirectly shows that she differs from you in many ways?
2. Her body language shows her anger
When your wife feels unhappily married to you, her body language speaks millions of unsaid angry messages.
Does your wife roll her eyes at you?
She is not at all pleased with you.
Does she cross her arms across her chest?
It shows she is ready for a lengthy fight with you.
Does her eyes narrow when she looks at you?
It means she does not trust you. She doubts what you have said.
3. Your wife refuses sex with you
When your wife feels unhappily married to you, she hates having sex with you.
She quotes many reasons for her disinterest in sex. She says she is tired. She says she has work to do. Mostly she coolly ignores your sexual overtures.
When your wife emotionally distances herself away from you, she instantly prepares herself for a sexless relationship with you.
4. She no longer takes your teasing lightly
Usually your wife tolerated you when you made unhealthy jokes about her.
You often made fun of her cooking before your friends\relatives thinking you were being funny.
You made fun of her dressing without feeling guilty about it. Your wife overlooked it.
You made demeaning comment about her appearance. She tolerated it.
But when your wife is unhappily married to you, she flares up with a vengeance whenever you utter a single word of criticism.
You literally reel under the impact of her anger. She minces no words in making her anger known to you.
5. Your wife never gives you emotional support any more
When she was deeply in love with you, your wife could not bear to see you unhappy. She instantly gave you moral support whenever you were upset.
But when your wife is unhappy with you , she no longer cares for your feelings. Your wife overlooks you when you look downcast. She ignores you when you are stressed.
She becomes calculative about the money she earns
When she was infatuated with you, she let you handle her money. But when she mentally deviates from you, the first thing she restricts is the control you had over her money.
If you think carefully, the reason behind the emotional withdrawal of your wife is invariably you. You have taken her too much for granted. Your unhappy wife will no longer have it.
6. She does not want to look attractive to you
Your wife doesn’t want to attract you anymore. So, she does not take any efforts to be presentable before you.
She looks shabby and grimy when at home.
Her hair is disheveled.
She wears old clothes.
She let goes her physical appearance.
Your wife does not care that you are disgusted with her looks.
7. She makes it known that you are irresponsible
Your wife takes your laziness as her trump card to blast you when she is unhappy with you.
When in love with you, she looked indulgently at you lazing in the sofa. But when your wife feels unhappily married to you, her watchful eyes clearly convey the message that she feels you are irresponsible.
She no longer handles all family problems by herself. She insists you do it even though she knows you are incapable of doing it. It is her way of mentally torturing you.
CONCLUSION
“Marriage is like a series of opposing reflections, inverse images getting ever smaller like nesting dolls, each one of your trying to squeeze yourself smaller to fit inside the hopes of the other, until one of you cracks or stops existing.” ―
Your marriage gets complicated when you do not play your role properly.
As a husband, it is your duty to make your wife feel loved. But, when you think it is not a big deal, you have to prepare yourself to meet another aspect of your wife – an aggressive side you can never handle. Wake up before it is too late.
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