Comments on: Your husband truly loves you -Tell tale signs

By: Mathi

Mathi — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 08:00:37 +0000

In reply to Asiah.

Hi Asiah,
Is your husband suffering from inferiority complex because of your higher level of education? His behavior appears so. No husband will abuse his wife without any reason. If he does so, it just means he is feeling inferior to his wife.
Do not fear your husband will take away your son because he will not. Threatenig you just means your husband is venting his frustration on you.
Do not be depressed. If you act depressively you will not have the energy to handle your relationship issues. And your appearance also will suffer.
You are being paranoid with fear about your married life.
Are you working?
You must be financially independent to garner respect from your husband.
Do not always argue with your husband.
You should put forth your views in a reasonable and friendly manner so that your husband wants to listen to you.
The first thing you should do is to regain your confidence. When you do that, you will see positive changes in your behavior. You will be able to handle your husband much better. Do not fight in front of your child. Your son will be terrified.

By: Asiah

Asiah — Mon, 19 Apr 2021 02:19:59 +0000

Hello ma’am
I have graduated from a reputable University but my husband is less educated.He becomes toxic at times and emotionally abuses me.he tries to reject my point of view and degrades me when he wants his wish to be fulfilled and forces me to keep quiet even when is one wrong path.I suffer from chronic body ache and depression.he does not take me to the Dr plus expects me to press clothes and entertain forty people of his family and wants me in bed but I can’t go all the time so he gets frustrated.in the beginning I didn’t entertain my married in laws so my husband doesn’t like me plus I had maids before marriage there is background difference .he has kept.maids for me but yells in return.he doesn’t give me muchtime and we have arguments .he never comes to me for.his unjustified behaviour. I have tried to make him realize but not much difference.I have a 2yr old son.I can’t move out of relationship as he might take my son from me.he often says in anger if you want to live then live like this or leave.he also grabs away my son from me in big conflicts and asks me.to pack my bag. I go in emotional.pain and rumination and em also socially isolated .he doesn’t take me to his relatives and friends nor to mine except.my parents and he threats over not giving me little things like pocket money etc and blackmails me in minor conflicts .I am blamed for any fault .I don’t feel any productive or energetic anymore and feel empty over his degradation and mental torture what should be done. please help

By: Helen Sherlock

Helen Sherlock — Sun, 10 May 2020 21:30:55 +0000

In reply to Mathi.

Women are always emotional, and men are more practical’????

Who are you?!

I have never read such sexist tripe, from a so called marriage counsellor

By: Mathi

Mathi — Sun, 13 Nov 2016 02:09:23 +0000

In reply to Aisha.

Aisha,
Women are always emotional and men are always practical. This is the main cause for unhappiness in married life. You say you are in a joint family. Do you speak about family problems with your husband? This might put off your husband as he wouldn’t know how to handle it. This could be the reason for the non communication of your husband.
Talk about non family issues with your husband. Do not argue with him. Be friendly with him. Talk about your problems in a reasonable manner. When your husband feels good in your company he will begin to interact with you more. You too would enjoy a good married life. Good luck.

By: Aisha

Aisha — Fri, 11 Nov 2016 11:49:32 +0000

Hello maam, my husband is very much professional and practical and m very emotional..i take good care of all his needs. the problem is that at home after office he is busy with television by the time i m free with all my household works of joint family its his time to sleep and so he goes to sleep sometimes talks to me sometimes even without talking. on sundays also he is busy with all his pending newpapers then he watches movies on laptops alone. he is very interested in spending lot of time alne. though i know that he loves me still i want help from you so that he give me some time and importance as a wife to cheerup our marriage.

By: Mathi

Mathi — Tue, 01 Nov 2016 17:40:16 +0000

In reply to Anu.

Anu,
Have you read all my articles? I also write how a husband should love his wife. So married life is about both. A happy married life involves a husband who cares and respects his wife and a wife who cares and loves her husband. It is as simple as that.

By: Mathi

Mathi — Tue, 01 Nov 2016 17:36:53 +0000

In reply to Sudha.

Sudha,
You say your husband says he loves you. Trust him. When you keep nagging him he will never like to spend time with you. You should make his time at home happy and comfortable by being caring and loving. You will definitely say a positive change in his behavior. Suspicion can kill your married life.