Hi Vioin,
Don’t compare your married life with others. You never know what other couples are undergoing. When you compare your life with others you will find that yours is lacking in many ways. This will lead to untold unhappiness and depression. I don’t know what you mean by saying that you are a unsuccessful husband. If it means that you are not able to satisfy your wife emotionally, you need not worry too much about it. Every marriage goes through a rough patch. As a woman your wife will be emotional. Unless you cater to her emotional needs you cannot win her love. You must communicate your love emphatically so that your wife feels it. If your wife is not satisfied with your earnings, it will be very tough for you. You must talk to your wife about your feelings. Most marriages fail because of the lack of communication. Unless you talk about your feelings your wife is not going to know about it.

Hi Mila,
Do you know being egoistic is one form of insecurity?
Your husband too might be feeling emotionally insecure.
Do you behave in a way that makes your husband hold himself away from you?
Don’t be begging and pleading for love. Your husband will feel even more egoistic. Talk to him with confidence. You are his life partner and not his servant.
Have a frank talk with your husband about why he does not like discussing things with you. Keep your tone friendly and understanding. Try to understand your husband from his viewpoint. Analyze why he is behaving in such a misjudging manner with you. See whether you are committing unknown relationship blunders that is making your husband withdrawn.