Hi,
You can contact me through my email mathisurendran@gmail.com. I would be happy to help you.

I am living with a difficult husband married for 10 years and have a 6 year old son.. just not able to handle it anymore.. when I saw your blog I felt it was for me.. I am confused whether to stay in the relationship or not but I am staying for the sake of my son.. how can I reach out to you for councelling..

Hi,
If you are faithful towards your husband, you need not try to prove your loyalty to him. Your husband should understand it. He seems to be a suspicious person.
When a man doubts his wife, it only shows what sort of an insensitive person he is.
You need not be stressed.
Just tell your husband that you are loyal to him and that he has to trust your loyalty.
Do not do anything which might make your husband feel suspicious about you. Avoid social media. It is the number one cause for distrust among couples.
Unless there is trust between you, your marriage will never work. Make your husband understand it.

Hi,
My heart goes out to you and your mother. The behavior of your father is not normal. He seems to be suffering from some sort of complexity. Your mother should not have taken the abuse of your father meekly. She should have relatiated. But it is no use talking about what has happened in the past.
Is your father a working man or a business man?
Is he earning enough for the family?
Lack of money drives some men mad.
An abusive husband is a person who suffers from inferiority complex. Because a man who is positive will not act like your father. It is a good sign that your father has stopped physically abusing your mother.At least your mother has escaped from physical abuse. Your mother should no longer take the abusiveness of your father lightly. She should talk to your father. And she should definitely show her rightful anger against your father. When your mother continues to be submissive, your father will not change.
Another thing I want to confirm is whether you are a working woman.
You should be financially independent if you must talk to your father about his abuse. If you are dependent upon him for money, it gives him power. He will not listen to you. But if you are financially independent, your money will make your father at least listen to you when you talk to him about his abusive behavior.

It sounds like you are a strong person. Continue to do what you know is right. If your husband is not violent, you could stay with him and see if he relaxes after you get a job. However, if you feel abused by his comments and believe that your child would be emotionally damaged by his comments, then you will need to find a way to get your husband to stop the comments for your child’s
sake and your own. PS Housekeeping is not the issue unless you are a complete slob. General hygiene, clean clothes, food, disinfected bathroom, bathed baby, is all anyone can do while she is in college. Think realistically and logically. Be compassionate with your husband’s emotions, but look closely. Is he abusive? Stressed? Selfish? You will be able to make the right decision for yourself and your child. I like the fact that you temporarily went on strike. Stay strong. Be wise. Be safe.