Hi,
You are allowing your mother in law to dominate you. This is the reason, she is dominating you. Going to your parent’s house is your right. You should definitely retaltiate. If you allow her to dominate you, it is going to affect your relationship with your husband. You will fight with him, regarding your mother in law. You married your husband to live as his life partner. You did not marry him to become a housemaid to his family.

Hi Tasneem,
I am unhappy at your submissive attitude. Did you marry your husband to become a maid to his household?
You owe yourself some respect. Your mother in law can demean you only if you allow her to do so. Your brother in law’s wife is a daughter in law like yourself. She has no business to taunt you. Show your guts. You should show your bhabi that you cannnot be played around with.
Visitng your mother is your prerogative. Your mother in law has no rights to disturb your stay there. The solution to your problem lies in your hands. It is you who have to decide how to handle this problem. Be confident and show your in laws that you will retalitate if they cross their borders.