Lack of sexual interest in couples make married life very boring and stressful.
Before marriage you long for the physical proximity of your spouse. In the initial days of your marriage you enjoy your sexual relationship intensely. You feel highly excited by thought of making love to your spouse.
But strangely a few years after marriage, your sex life dwindles to once a month and further decreases to once a year. Sexual interest in your spouse gradually becomes a compulsion to you.
Top 5 reasons for lack of sexual interest among couples
1.STRESS AND TENSION
You lead a very hectic life. You have immense work related stress. Your carefree life is lost after marriage. You have responsibilities thrust on you.
You have to keep up with the rat race. You have a lot of worries about your family. Your attention shifts from your spouse to earning money. You want tons of money. You work yourself to dead tiredness to lead an enviable life style.
When you return home all you want is rest. Sex is far from your thoughts. You want to fall in the bed for a few hours of sleep to wake up for another day of hectic work.
You do not have the energy to satisfy your spouse sexually.
2. GETTING TOO USED TO IT
Do you like eating the same food daily? You don’t.
Do you like watching the same movie daily? You don’t.
Do you like wearing the same dress daily? You don’t.
Do you like having sex daily? You don’t.
You get used to each other so much that sex no longer excites you. If at all you have sex it is a hurried ritual of physical urgency. Nothing else.
How boring can it get?
Getting used to your spouse is the topmost reason for your lack of sexual interest.
3. LACK OF PRIVACY
Sexual interest needs privacy. When you live in a joint family you do not have personal time with your spouse. You have to be formal with your spouse in front of your in-laws.
This makes you feel tensed.
Sexual interest actually starts emotionally. The private moments you enjoy with your spouse gradually makes you feel sexually inclined to him\her. The close proximity you enjoy while watching TV, the secret signature signs you have when you are with your children makes you wait for your romantic time together.
The atmosphere existing at your home directly affects your sexual interest.
Children are innocent to your secret romantic signals to your spouse. Your in-laws are not.
4. NOT BEING ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
You take your spouse for granted. You never make yourself presentable to him\her.
It is complete audacity when you link your lack of sexual interest with the shabbiness of your wife.
Does it mean your wife should tolerate your grimy look and smelly body?
Your wife also wants you to look presentable.
Your husband feels repulsed when you look shabby and smell kitchen.
Attract your husband by looking good in a neat dress. Simplest way to draw him towards you.
Attractiveness paves way for mutual sexual interest.
Have bath in the night.
Smelling good is very important to feel sexual interest in your spouse.
5. MAKING IT A COMPULSION
The inclination towards sex is different in wife and husband.
For a husband it is more of a physical act. He wants sex and must have it.
But for a wife it is more of an emotional act. She must feel emotionally aroused before she is ready for bed.
The impatience of husband and the emotional longing of wife clash to make sex a compulsive and disinterested act. Very boring and unexciting.
Sex is a unique relationship you share only with your spouse. Do not make it boring and dull. Revive the excitement and pleasure by being permanently interested in each other.