Hi,
This blog about marriage could be an eye opener to many married couples.
Let me elaborate.
My name is Mathi Surendran. I come from Tamilnadu in Southern part of India. I have a wonderful daughter who is happily married. I am also a happy grandmother to two adorable grandchildren.
I have started a new Youtube channel “Marriage Realities”
It is a comprehensive relationship channel which will deal with many of the common issues married couples face.
Subscribe to Marriage Realities to understand your marriage in a new light.
Here is the link to my channel!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNrT3KOkTU5ITQMyYnVsxGQ
Well, my introduction seems very bland, doesn’t it?
Nothing to warrant my expertise about marriage, you might feel.
Are you wondering whether I am a marriage counsellor?
No.
Might be a psychologist?
I am not.
Now, you have all sorts of doubts about my authority to write about marriage, haven’t you?
Well, a woman who enjoyed wonderful relationship with her husband knows about marriage, doesn’t she?
Yes.
I enjoyed 18 years of great married life with my husband, who is no more. He was one of the most lovable husband any woman would love to marry. He made me realize how love could transfer a relationship into an extraordinary friendship.
So, I think my experience gives me an edge to write about relationships.
After all, married life is not theoretical, isn’t it?
It is an experience. The nuances of married life cannot be studied. It has to be lived and experienced.
And I have experienced the very good and the very bad of marriage.
Ours was a roller coaster life, with its share of harrowing experiences. Our financial downfall made our relatives shun us. We were time and again insulted because we had no money.
Do you know what made us withstand the never ending harrowing experiences we had?
It was the love we had for each other. Our only daughter proved to be an anchor to our troubled life.
To top my agony, my husband fell sick with renal failure. It is heart rending to see your precious one suffering a dreadful disease. I still don’t know how I withstood the turmoil of losing my husband.
But he left behind fond memories of the intense love he had for us. Memories which I will take to my grave.
The excellent relationship I enjoyed with my husband makes me sad when I see couples losing their marriage for silly reasons.
Marriage is about two persons with different ideologies, different desires and different individualities. This is what makes marriage so unique. Persons with such differences unite to form a family. So there are bound to be clashes and fights.
It is a very natural and normal phenomenon in almost all marriages.
But today, you marry out of intense love and divorce out of intense hatred.
Do you know you don’t need a spouse who stands beside you?
You need a spouse who stands by you.
A car needs many tiny components to make it run smoothly. No component is lesser to the other.
Your marriage also needs many tiny and intricate qualities. One cannot do without the other.
You need laughter, humor, and fun.
You need to be serious and responsible also.
You need love, care, and attention.
You need peace and calm.
You need anger and arguments. [It makes you understand the viewpoint of your spouse.}
You need adjustment and tolerance.
You need freedom and liberty.
You need togetherness.
You need spacing also.
You need to save.
You need to spend also.
You need money.
Money does not make you happy in your marriage.
The needed qualities of a good marriage is endless.
You feel you are justified when you divorce your spouse. But you forget one sad spectator who wants to know the reason why you are making his life insecure for no fault of his- your emotionally shattered child.
You might have thousands of reasons for your divorce. But you do not have one answer for your child’s numerous doubts about your drastic decision to separate him from his other parent. He after all loves both of you.
There is uproar to save nature. There is vociferous voice to save forest. But there is no voice to save marriages.
No one has yet realized the importance of a stable marriage.
When I see marriages falling apart for silly reasons I feel sad. You are able to adjust with hundreds of your colleagues, but find it impossible to adjust to your spouse.
I want to throw light into your dark marriage. I want you to enjoy the emotional security which only good relationship with your spouse can give you.
It is so easy to lose your married life. But it is very difficult to build it. But when you build it the right way, the happiness you feel cannot be had in any other relationship.
I want everyone to enjoy a happy married life. It is very easy. Only thing is that you must know the tricks to make your marriage work.
Do you have doubts about your marriage?
Ask me. I will answer to the best of my knowledge. My heart to heart talk with you will not have the dryness of theory, but the warmth of my experience.
Marriage has endless topics. Every marriage is unique and different.
Are you spending thousands of dollars in marriage counselling?
Don’t.
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