Most of you want to make your marriage stronger, don’t you?
It is a normal wish, which almost all couples have. You too are no different. But sadly, you are disappointed when your marriage struggles to be strong and stable.
Don’t worry.
You are not alone in feeling so. You are in fact one among the many couples who feel that their marriage is not perfect.
Face the harsh fact.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. In fact, most of you are not satisfied with your relationship. When two people from different family background unite in a marriage bond, they are bound to have hassles and misunderstanding.
So, it is perfectly normal to have differences of opinion with your spouse. But it is abnormal if you do not adjust to your differences.
There are some astonishingly easy ways to make your marriage stronger.
1. Throw away your dreamy expectations
Unrealistic expectations about your spouse makes you feel depressed when it is not met.
You are shattered when your expectations about a perfect marriage falls flat on its face, aren’t you?
Forgo this thought.
- Realize that your spouse is very human with his\her own drawbacks.
- Your way of thinking need not be his\hers also.
- Accept your spouse as and how he\she is.
- Never make much ado about the minor faults of your spouse.
Dreamy expectations will always remain a dream.
So, be grounded and practical to understand that you have to adjust to your humanly faulty spouse.
2. Empathize with your spouse
Have you ever empathized with your spouse?
Often you don’t.
In fact, you feel, when you sympathize with your spouse, you are empathizing.
You are wrong.
They are two different emotions.
You can easily sympathize with your spouse as it is all showing your pity. You murmur a few consoling words to your downcast spouse. You hug him\her. You feel your duty is over.
This is not enough to make your marriage stronger.
Empathy is an entirely different emotion. It is the most needed aspect in your relationship. But most ignored also.
Empathy makes you see things from the viewpoint of your spouse. You get into the shoes of him\her. You actually live your married life from the angle of your spouse.
It is very tough to put it into practice. But, it works wonders to your relationship when you adapt it. You will be amazed by the new sense of understanding which develops between you.
3. Spend quality time together
Spend valuable time together with your spouse.
Most of you never feel like interacting with your spouse.
Why?
You return home dead tired from your work. You feel completely lackluster. So, you do not feel like interacting with your spouse. All you want is some rest and peace.
If at all you converse with your spouse, it is about some important family issues.
Compulsory and boring, isn’t it?
It in no way helps to make your marriage stronger.
What does spending quality time with your spouse actually mean?
You should enjoy your togetherness.
You might be too tired to talk with your spouse. But, the loving smile you exchange with him\her speaks volumes of your love for him\her.
Go for long walks talking incessantly about innocuous topics.
Do not be glued to the computer\TV. It robs away your personal time.
Keep on communicating.
Have direct eye contact with your spouse.
The time you spend together should convey the love and care you have towards each other.
4. Never, outgrow your spouse
Do you ever outgrow your children?
No!
Your love for them intensifies as they grow.
But strangely, you outgrow your spouse very easily. After a few years of marriage, you feel resentful and frustrated with your spouse.
What happens when you out grow your spouse?
You stop communicating with him\her. You ridicule your spouse for silly reasons. You often argue with him\her. Both play the love guessing game to perfection. You do not express your love.
Never ever, outgrow your spouse.
Say ‘I love you’ many times a day to him\her. You will get an amazing reciprocal love from your spouse.
Apologize instantly when you are in the wrong. ‘I am sorry’ are magic words that instantly conveys that you respect your spouse.
5. Never, lose your humor
Humor plays a vital part in making a perfect marriage. It drives away the monotony in your relationship. It lightens a tensed situation as you laugh it away.
Watch comedy shows together and laugh your heart out.
CONCLUSION
Always seek each other. It makes you feel belonged.
Have a practical outlook towards your spouse. Love him\her for what he\she is. Never search for a perfect spouse. You will never find one. Don’t forget you are also not a perfect spouse. Perfect marriage exists only in fairy tales. Not in reality.
Make efforts to enjoy prefect happiness in your imperfect spouse. It is the best way to make your marriage stronger.
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