The relationship blunders of a husband destroy the emotional well-being of his wife.
It is sad, that a husband does not understand that his wife is emotional and sensitive. This is the reason he does many things that hurt the sensitivity of his wife.
- Husband does not understand that the feelings of his wife are tender and delicate.
- He does not know about the emotional standpoint of his wife.
- Husband often underestimates the talent and capacity of his wife.
You might justify yourself, that it is your wife who does not understand you. You are wrong in your assumption about your wife. It is true, that as a man you are practical by nature. But you should not be uncaring and insensitive towards the feelings of your wife.
The expectations of your wife are quite simple.
- Your wife wants to feel your love.
- Your wife wants you to value her as the most important woman of your life.
Sadly, you do not fulfill any of the emotional needs of your wife. On the contrary, your make your wife feel emotionally deprived, by not understanding her emotional needs. When you do many things that hurts your wife, she feels you have never understood her point of view, anytime in your relationship.
Shall we now have a glimpse into the common relationship blunders of a husband?
No 1. Of the relationship blunders of a husband is not listening
Most of you do not listen to what your wife has to say to you. You feel your wife always talks gossip. You are sure that whatever she has to say to you, is her exaggerated version of some molecule relationship issue.
No.
You are wrong.
- Whatever your wife feels, she must confide to you.
- Whatever affects her, must be shared with you.
This is the reason, your wife literally craves for your listening and understanding. But you do not want to listen your wife, as you feel she always makes a mountain out of a mole. You also fear that when you listen to her, she might plunge you into a family problem which might give you a headache.
Many a time, your feel listening to your wife eats into your personal time. So, you desist from listening to her. When you do not listen to your wife, she feels you are ignoring her emotions. When the unshared emotions of your wife suffocate her, she becomes the unhappiest woman on earth.
Whatever might the problems of your wife, you should be caring enough to listen to her. You should make your wife feel, that she has your full concentration by maintaining direct eye contact with her. When you utter supporting words, your wife adores you for your understanding attitude.
No 2. Of the relationship blunders of a husband is making snide comments about her appearance and dressing.
Your wife might not be great looking. She might be more on the obese side. But this does not warrant any scathing remarks from you.
“This dress makes you look plumper than you are,” this body shaming comment evokes tremendous resentment in your wife. It is because, the appearance of your wife is a sensitive topic to her.
When you make degrading remarks about the appearance of your wife, and compare her with your svelte female colleagues, you make her feel undesirable and unattractive.
When you make fun of the appearance of your wife, you give her an inferiority complex. She feels sad, that you are concentrating on her physical appearance, while completely ignoring her inner beauty.
Your wife does not mind it, when you tease her mildly. But when there is a bite in your words, your wife instantly realizes that you are mocking her appearance in the wrong way.
When you make inconsiderate comments about the physical appearance of your wife, you seem a callous person to her. Your wife always wants to be shown, that she is good looking to you.
No 3. Of the relationship blunders of a husband is not displaying love
Your wife never outgrows your loving words. During your dating days, you uttered the magic ‘I love you’ so often, that it made your wife feel dazed with love.
But after marriage, you become practical in your attitude towards your wife. You stop displaying your love, as you feel your wife understand your love without you displaying it.
When you do not display your love, your wife obviously does not feel it. When your wife does not feel your love, she is unhappy being married to you.
You often wonder why your wife looks unhappy. It is sad, that you do not realize the main culprit behind the unhappiness of your wife is your unloving attitude towards her.
No 4. Of the relationship blunders of a husband is thinking that household chores are not your business.
Long, long ago, women did not venture out to work. So, the yester year woman lead a relaxed life. She had ample time to take rest, after her husband had gone to work.
But it is no longer so. Your wife also goes to work, and she too leads a hectic lifestyle. You must understand, that your wife has the same work-related stress and tension as you do.
When your wife shares your financial burden, it is only natural that she expects you to share her household chores. If you loiter around without helping your wife, she feels you are a male chauvinist who still has the old school thought, that it is the duty of a woman to do all her family duties.
When you add fuel to fire by ordering your wife about, it makes her feel that you are insensitive and do not care for her. Your wife feels slavish that she has to slog in her office, as well at home while you are having it good.
You must understand the tiredness of your wife. When you voluntarily help your wife in her household chores, it makes her feel cared by you.
No 5. Of the relationship blunders of a husband is not discussing financial matters with her
Most of you wrongly think, that your wife does not have knowledge about dealing with money and investments. So, you do not discuss money matters with her.
You keep your wife in the dark about your decision regarding money, making her feel left out. You would be surprised to know, that your wife will be a better financial adviser than anyone else.
Your wife always has the future of her family in her mind, and so knows what is best for them. You should discuss any financial decision you are going to take with your wife. When you do so, it makes her feel that you value her.
When there are mutual financial discussions between you, the outcome will always be for the good of your family. When you take your wife into confidence about money matters, it delights her that you approve of her money dealing capacity.
CONCLUSION
You should treat your wife as your better half, and not as your bitter half. Show her the love and respect due to her.
Do you know what your wife gives back in return?
Your married life becomes loaded with absolute respect, tons of love, loads of care and unending happiness.
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