Most of you are emotionally shattered by the short life span of your honeymoon phase, aren’t you?
You want your honeymoon phase to continue forever. Because your honeymoon days are so enthralling and exciting to you.
Why do you yearn for your honeymoon days so much?
- Honeymoon days are the wonder days of your marriage.
- You just cannot have enough of each other.
- Your love for your spouse is so much that his\her negative aspects escape your notice.
- You are very indulgent and pampering towards your spouse during your honeymoon phase.
- You keep on interacting about everything under the sky with your spouse.
- Sexual attraction towards each other is at its peak.
But the changeover in your behavior after your honeymoon phase is rather mind blowing.
- You no longer want to be with your spouse as constantly as you were during your honeymoon days.
- Even the minor faults of your spouse do not escape your attention.
- You search for topics to interact with your spouse.
- Your sexual attraction for your spouse dwindles.
Can you see the volume of changes you undergo after your honeymoon phase is over?
You feel very unhappy when your frenzied love for each other disappears as soon as your honeymoon phase is over. You are shocked when short-temper, resentment, bitterness and incompatibility creep into your relationship.
Do not worry too much about it.
You can rest assured that these changes happen in most couple’s life after their honeymoon phase is over.
Why does your relationship with your spouse change so much after your honeymoon phase?
It is because your honeymoon phase is a period in your married life when your love for your spouse touches a new pinnacle. All you have for him\her is blind love. Everything else dims into inconsequence. Everything about your spouse is new to you.
You are totally focused on the excitement the physical proximity of your spouse gives you.
- So, you do not mind the filthy habits of your spouse.
- You close your mind to any differences of opinion you might have with your spouse.
- Everything about your relationship looks idealistic and perfect.
Yes!
In the initial days of your marriage, you are emotionally happy to have married the person you ardently loved.
But as days go by, harsh reality sinks in.
You find that your married life is not as rosy as you imagined it to be.
- You are now prone to find needless faults with your spouse.
- You are irritated by the behavior of your spouse.
- You are shocked that there is nothing common between you and that you are poles apart in many things.
Here are the common 5 signs showing in no uncertain terms that your honeymoon phase is over.
1. You no longer feel excited about your spouse
During your honeymoon phase, you could not have enough of your spouse. Just thinking of your spouse made you feel excited that you had married a perfect person.
You are together always. Whenever you watch TV, both snuggle to each other.
You call your spouse during work hours and have sugary lovers talk.
You look directly into each other’s eyes and smile a lot.
But after your honeymoon phase is over, you no longer like to be with your spouse.
Whenever you interact with your spouse, your eyes look at the TV\laptop, rather than at him\her.
If at all you call your spouse during the work hours, it is to remind him\her to buy something or to remind about some important bills.
The excitement of having married the person you loved slowly disappears from you.
2. You become focused on the negative qualities of your spouse
During your honeymoon phase, you hardly notice the negative qualities of your spouse. Everything about your spouse looks perfect to you.
You thought that your spouse was handsome\beautiful.
You are proud that your spouse is the best thing that happened to you.
But as your honeymoon days come to an end, you suddenly notice that your spouse is not that perfect.
You are annoyed by his\her filthy habits.
You feel your spouse is so boring and dull that you cease to interact with him\her.
You dislike the way your spouse does his\her work.
You view every quality of your spouse with irritation and feel that you could have made a better choice.
3. You no longer make up with your spouse
After your honey phase disappears from your relationship, you no longer make up when you have tiffs or arguments with your spouse.
You become so hardened towards your spouse that you feel that you are doing everything right and he\she is doing everything wrong.
Whenever there are arguments between you, you fight until the end to win the battle.
You utter harsh words against your spouse and never apologize for it.
You are not bothered that your words might affect your spouse.
Failing to make up with your spouse and trying to making him\her a culprit are sure signs that your relationship is entering its no more honeymoon phase.
4. Your sexual attraction towards each other nosedives
During your honeymoon phase you constantly had exciting sex.
You were more than willing to satisfy your spouse sexually.
But after your honeymoon days, you scarcely have exciting sex. If at all you have sex, it is hurried and hasty, just to satisfy your physical hunger.
You do not care to see if your spouse is physically satisfied.
Can you see your changed outlook towards your spouse and relationship affects your sex life also?
5. You become selfish and self-centered
During your honey phase you were focused on making your spouse happy. You adjusted to the faults of your spouse so that he\she feels comfortable and relaxed.
You put yourself in the background and put the needs of your spouse in the forefront.
But after your honeymoon days are over, you become totally focused on yourself.
You no longer want to put your spouse in your priority list. You give more importance to your own comfort. You always want things done your way.
Conclusion
“The honeymoon is the unforgettable period in a couple’s life. Later in life, tired and tired in the dust and mist of relations, together or not, they would always miss that time they spent together. Every bit of it.” -Girdhar Joshi
Honeymoon phase does not last for any couple. You have to come back to real life some time or the other.
It is normal when your frenzied love for your spouse is replaced by mellow love. It is natural when you want to spend time away from your spouse to enjoy your own personal space.
But it abnormal when your personal space means being emotionally away from your spouse.
Honeymoon days can disappear from your marriage. It does not signify the end to your marriage.
But never let your love for each other disappear. Because it signals the end to your marriage.
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